A girl's life changes a whole lot once the wedding date is decided. They tend to become emotionally fragile and can burst out into tears at the drop of a hat (which by the way is very normal)!
I got married a year and a half ago which began with a roller-coaster ride of emotions, and I was left feeling very confused all the time. Later, realising it is very typical for a bride to feel that way.
Here are a few of the things that every newlywed goes through.
The things around you suddenly change, and you are clueless on how to react. Even the smallest of the things like when to wake up, or what kind of tea/coffee everyone prefers seem like a tough quiz. Things in your new home might be done in an entirely different way from what you've been taught and doing your entire life.
But it's OK to be clueless. Adapting to your new environment will require just a little observation and a lot of patience.
Regardless of whether your new home is much more spacious or compact or beach facing or even on the moon, you are going to miss that 'homely' feeling for a long, long time.
You've always been the princess of the house and your wishes have been your parents' command. You might still be pampered by your in-laws but you'll now have all new set of responsibilities which will not let you feel like a pampered kid.
You never worried about the laundry or the day's menu or if the towel was lying on the sofa or the way you sat in front of the TV for hours. Not anymore! You soon realise, you've started behaving like your mom used to behave with your siblings and your dad.
Sometimes, you might feel lost and doubt yourself. If you'll ever be able to make a good daughter-in-law or a good wife or do justice to any of the new relations that have come along with your marriage. But girl, Rome wasn't built in a day. So, hold your horses, and everything will fall into place.
There might be times when you get jealous of your husband because he still gets to be the spoiled brat and you've to be the wise one. You are suddenly expected to grow up and act mature all the time.
All these changes make you miss your mom the most. You now realise her true importance and how much she made you feel protected all your life. I remember spending hours crying for the initial few months because I missed all the coddling I got back home, but thanks to my husband who understood what I was going through and made sure I never felt left out.
After all this time, I now know for the fact that everything gets better with time and patience. Now there are no more tears, no more feeling left out or confused. I have a lovely family who loves and pampers me equally.
So, all the new brides out there, if you are going through any of this, trust me, it's just temporary, and soon you too will fall in love with your new family.