A beautiful blonde haired young lady, with ink all over her skin, labret-pierced bottom lip, and eyes that could see through you... this was Nimisha Verma when I saw her for the first time sitting in the conference cabin at WittyFeed.
"She must be a hippy stud," you must have judged her till now! I am sorry to break the ice, but you're wrong.
Most of us recall Nimisha as a girl who left her house when she was 17 to follow her dreams. But what is behind this now 21-year-old, the one I met recently is what I have brought for you.
So, in the time when we see people talking about the critical matter of feminism, equality, depression, Nimisha gave me insides of one of the most common yet unpopular topics of consideration, i.e., ACCEPTING ONESELF.
Come, let's read what this vagabond has to say.
If I quote her own words, "I am a painter, an artist, a singer, a dancer, a speaker, an influencer, a storyteller, an activist... well, regardless of what I am today, I may not be that tomorrow. This is who I am. I have given myself the freedom that even if I have thousands of people looking up to me, I am free to be what I want to be."
"Thanks to Twitter that I started earning by writing tweets for MNCs. Later, I began making money by selling my paintings. It was like giving away my babies," Nimisha said while sharing that she always had the plan of becoming independent at a very young age. She also began a Facebook page, Art Hunters when she was 17.
I decided very early that I am never going to add to my parents' sufferings.
"They never understood me. But now I have realised that they were in their own mess, and it is okay. I don't want to blame them for not being able to support me at that time. Because after leaving my house, after all these years, now, I feel so much of compassion and affection towards my parents. As we grow mature, one thing that we learn eventually is that it's entirely okay if people don't understand you."
"Who says living alone is easy?"
"You have to pay all the bills, and you have to take care of your own self. The toughest job is to accept the fact that no one is going to do it for you. You have to convince yourself every day that do your thing, come back home, and every time you walk back home alone, you realise how vulnerable you are."
"Every time I get a tattoo, it takes me back to what I have gone through. I feel the same pain all over again, but then it begins to heal me. It is like a healing process for me."
People often say, 'Bro dard nahi hota!' But no, I feel pain. I don't understand why are people so afraid to accept the fact that yes, they feel pain."
Nimisha started Home for Artists, a place for artists to come and stay. Currently, the residency at Home for Artists is closed. But she has hopes to start it all over again.
"Whenever I meet people, I ask them what are their views about people in general? Most of them say that people are just mean and selfish. I guess, in all these years I have realised ki hum bevajah logon se grudges leke baithe hai. Where has all the compassion between humans gone?
There was a point in Nimisha's school life when she fell into severe depression. "I dropped out from my school, I was in severe depression. But I didn't give up. I used to write motivational quotes, I used to convince myself that things will soon be alright. I don't know how I handled it. So, if I ever get to meet my old self, I want to appreciate her for surviving it all."
Do you think your parents will support you now, I asked.
"Well, they are trying to understand me. And this is a big thing for me. Also, now I want to spend time with my mother, I know she needs me..."
Nimisha shares that one of the biggest issues with young minds is that they often curse themselves for changing every time. And why do they do it? Because they find people, who aren't happy with their versions.
"Listen, some people will never understand you, and it is perfectly fine. Because if they cannot accept it, it's their fault. The only thing that counts and the person who matters at the end of the day is you and you being comfortable in our own skin," she added.
Give yourself the freedom to feel. If you're sad, feel sad. If you're happy, laugh till your belly hurts.
GIVE YOURSELF FREEDOM!
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