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IN Lifestyle ON 23 Jun, 2015
Nothing lasts forever – including most friendships. During our carefree heydays, we vigorously declare that our friendship is too strong to ever die. Then college happens, shifting to other cities happens, jobs happen, marriage and kids happen or many times we just grow apart without any misunderstandings or any issues – hence not friendships stand the test of time, distance and a busy life.
Sure you still keep in touch, you talk but things aren’t the same anymore. Gather the courage to examine your bond closely and realise where your friendship stands and if any of these signs sound sadly familiar - then your friendship is dying a slow death and there is nothing you can do to make it alive again!
Recall the last news you heard of your best friend – and try and recall what details you know about the event. If you pause and fumble………guess you get your answer. it shows that you do not know anything about them and now finally compared to a time when you used to know every little secret they had or every little move they made in a day…. just things are just not the same anymore.
This is more clear sign, there was a time when you would talk for hours not talking almost 6 hours in a day would make you feel its been a week you guys din't catch up along!! But now, there are hardly any phone calls, even to wish the person on birthday. a Facebook text or a ping on Whatsapp seems to be adequate, even the length and the frequency of chats may erode.
It is hard to determine which is more tragic – not meet each other when living in the same city (because, you know, busy with life etc) or never planning to meet up even when one visits the other's city for a short period and there is nothing more worst first not talking to then not meeting!!
Okay, so finally you meet up or even call each other … you discuss your daily routine, a bit here- there but what after that? You lack topics to talk , then awkward situations start arising ,you keep phone and then think 10 times before calling back again!
So they are your best friend so most of time you gotta be in same circle, but when these group hangouts become a reason to meet or when you use these hangouts as excuse to meet them understand that you have gone apart.
We all make many many promises to each other in beginning and swore to keep them forever but if they are not there during your happy or tragic moments or during any of your promised events like: divorce or say when you had your baby or when you are about to get engaged etc, it's time to reconsider your relationship.
We all have many friends but a best friend is a best friend……but when you start talking and spending time more with others or if someone comes in your life and they gain more priority and you tend to talk to them every day or once in a while and not to your best friend. Things get more degraded.
There was a time when you enlightened each other with every minute details but now you just can't share your problems anymore as you don't talk and don't know whats in others life you feel like.
You are just friends because you have great moments earlier but continuing this relation may seem a burden to you… and friendship should never feel like a burden ever….. so just try ending it in a subtle way or repair it.
There is often a time when things reach a limit and you just can't handle things and stress of this more. True friendship is a bond strong enough to survive all of the above, but one of the two fails to express there feelings and love and leaves things – it dies like a withering summer rose.