It was just another day for Sanju where he was teased by his friends for not being able to run fast because he had a bulky body and got tired and restless very easily. That laugh was not just a laugh, it was a mirror. Society's mirror which is far away from the reality and truth.
This very mirror of the society teaches every person on this planet to be a people pleaser which is practically IMPOSSIBLE. Even Shah Rukh Khan cannot do that, leave aside little Sanju.
Body shaming has spread its tentacles out in every corner and is not restricted to one specific gender. But have we ever stopped to think and consider that even the dominant sex of our society faces shame and it is DANGEROUS?
You are absolutely mistaken if you feel it is just the women of the society who are asked to eat less because they will put on weight or eat more because they simply look malnourished. Men face body-shaming too and it shakes their spirit. It seriously does.
People saying "OMG, you have put on weight" or "You have gained so much of weight, what do you do? Sit like a couch potato?" only adds up to the pile and somewhere it needs to stop.
Yes, they also get conscious of their six-pack abs looking like a keg. They also start to fret when you say they are short or that they are nowhere close to their favourite hero. From constant nagging and jabs on weight, skin colour and hair loss to being tagged as effeminate, men face some serious discrimination at some point in their life.
Body shaming has a negative impact on human's mind. Society first stereotypes you and it just keeps getting worse from that. Sheer blatant disrespect is what body shaming can be easily termed as. Judgments and exclusion are what this results in. People might counter-argue that body shaming makes them want to do better and become healthier but the derogatory remarks are worthless.
Being skinny is okay.
Not being skinny is also okay.
Having curves is okay.
Not having curves is also okay.
But, bashing someone for their body type is not okay.
Most of us feel that just because someone is famous they haven't been exposed to the adversities of life and haven't faced shame at some point in their life.
Arjun Kapoor is an example of someone who was insulted in public but it never affected what he wanted to do in life. The actor once shared in one of his interviews:
"I have fluctuated a lot in the last couple of years because of my own health issues. We have our own phases in life. Even actors are human beings so we have issues to deal with but I have faith in myself, I have lost 50 kgs in past four years."
Bollywood's famed actor and singer Adnan Sami's transformation also generated a lot of debate, but he is very sensitive towards issues of shaming anyone. When Fardeen Khan was body shamed, Adnan took to Twitter and shared his views:
"Pls stop judging ppl by their #physiques. It's akin 2 #racism! A person is gud or bad thru d soul & not by d weighing scales! #FardeenKhan."
In a ruthless industry where you are constantly judged just because your parent is a star, Adhyayan Suman went through a surprising transformation and shut all the body shamers. He proved that a man is much more than his looks.
Ganesh Acharya is one of the most popular and talented choreographers that Bollywood has ever seen.
He was reported saying:
"It was tough for me. I have been working on my body for the past one-and-a-half years. I had even put on 30-40 kg for my film Hey Bro (2015), and my weight had then touched 200 kg. Ab vahi weight utaar raha hoon (I am shedding that weight now). Karna hi tha (I had to do this)! Ek soch thi ki (I had this determination that) I just have to do this. Logon ne Ganesh Acharya ko mota hi dekha hai (people have only seen the fat Ganesh Acharya), that's why I wanted to change the image. I have lost almost 85kg now." And that is how he answered all his body-shamers.
We instantly make a judgment about a person based on his or her appearance but that doesn't define who they are, that tells who we are.
To combat body shaming every man must simply recognise the judgements, grab them and simply bury them somewhere deep. And to those who body-shame, you are not shaming a short or a fat guy, you are shaming a person with feelings. STOP IT, now and forever.
That's all, people.
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