Getting Married? Replace The Old Traditional Promises With These 21st Century Ones

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Getting Married? Replace The Old Traditional Promises With These 21st Century Ones
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Congratulations that you have finally found the one who you can see yourself growing old with. But have you ever wondered what you could do to make your relationship last longer? Love them? Trust them? Build more understanding? Making n number of promises? 

Well, I think it begins when two people are prepared to stand by each other through thick and thin.

Getting married to someone isn't just all about making your other half feel complete, but about nurturing the relationship equally. And if we are talking about making promises, how can we forget the old traditional vows that are the divine promises every couple makes before getting married? But since the era has changed, so have the situations and customs. 

I don't say that the customs are immoral, however, with time, they should be changed.

So let's check what were the old conventional promises and how can they be replaced according to this 21st-century couples.

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In the first vow, the man promises, "You will offer me food and be helpful in every way. I will cherish you and provide welfare and happiness to you and our children." To this, the bride complies, "I am responsible for the home and all household, food and finance responsibilities."

Let's replace it with, "WE are responsible for welfare, food, finance and household."

Let's replace it with,
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I will be helpful to you in every way I can. Rather than expecting 'everything' from you, I pledge to accept you with all your traits and love them to their core.

As they say, anyone can stand by your side during the sunny day. But I will hold the umbrella for you in the stormy days too. 

In the second vow, the man promises, "Together we will protect our house and children." To this, the bride in return promises, "I will be by your side as your courage and strength. I will rejoice in your happiness. In return, you will love me solely."

Let's replace it with, "Let's be each other's strength and respect each other's decisions."

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I promise to stay by your side as your strength. I will play my part in protecting the family and however you want the family to grow, I will support you. I vow to lend you strength for all of your dreams. If we are together, we can achieve more than I could solely. I believe in you.

In the third vow, the man promises, "May we grow wealthy and prosperous and strive for the education of our children and may our children live long." In return, the bride promises, "I will love you solely for the rest of my life, as you are my husband. Every other man in my life will be secondary. I vow to remain chaste."

Let's replace it with, "Let's grow together and keep each other the priority!"

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Through all the thick and thin, I promise to grow with you. I won't hide anything from you. I will love you solely, and everything else in my life will be secondary. 

In the fourth vow, the man promises, "You have brought sacredness into my life, and have completed me. May we be blessed with noble and obedient children." In return to this promise, the bride says, "I will shower you with joy, from head to toe. I will strive to please you in every way I can."

Let's replace it with, "Rather than perfection, let's look for happiness together."

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You have come into my life to complete me. I don't ask for perfect children. No matter how healthy or noble they would be, I will be blessed to have them. 

I don't promise that this will all be a bed of roses, but I promise to try my best to keep you happy in every way I can.

In the fifth vow, the man promises, "You are my best friend and staunchest well-wisher. You have come into my life, enriching it. God bless you." To this, the bride says, "I promise to love and cherish you for as long as I live. Your happiness is my happiness, and your sorrow is my sorrow. I will trust and honour you, and will strive to fulfil all your wishes."

Let's replace it with, "We are grateful to have each other.  So let's nurture this relationhsip together."

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I am grateful to have you in my life. I promise to love you with all my heart. Making you happy will always be my priority. Things may fall out of hands, but at the end of the day, I will stand by you. However, I may be imperfect I pledge to be sensitive and respectful towards your unique characteristics.   

In the sixth vow, the man promises, "Now that you have taken six steps with me, you have filled my heart with immense happiness. Will you do the kindness of filling my heart with happiness like this for all times?" To this, the bride replies, "I will always be by your side."

Let's replace it with, "Let's grow old together and work to keep our relationship healthy." 

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I will cherish every moment spent with you. I will communicate and express what I think. No matter how terrible it gets, I will make it work. Through ups and downs/ thick and thin, I will cross every bridge with you whether it is side by side or when pushing you in a wheelchair.

In the seventh and last vow, the man concludes, "We are now husband and wife and are one. You are mine and I am yours for eternity." The bride accepts this proclamation and says, "As God is a witness, I am now your wife. We will love, honour and cherish each other forever."

Let's replace it with, "I promise I am in this until the end."

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I am your husband/wife now. We are partners in joy, sorrow and honour. I will cherish this relationship forever. FOREVER! It is scary, right. But yes, now you're mine, and I am yours for eternity.

A wise man once said, "Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is the threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years." 

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