"Perfectionists are their own devils" - Jack Kirby
Who doesn't want to be a perfectionist? When it comes to quality of work or organizing tasks, I guess each one of us wishes to be a perfectionist.
Perfectionism is not just an attitude; it is a state of mind. I am a perfectionist by choice regarding flexibility. To be precise, I love to be a perfectionist on occasions.
The phenomenon is ingrained in all of us to quite an extent. The degree varies from person to person. Imagine inviting guests for dinner. You want your house to look like one from the beautiful homes magazine. The food you prepare should not only taste yum, but the porcelain should be good too. Is this not perfectionism? Ofcourse it is. But this is healthy and safe until you are not obsessed with the whole thing.
Well, life is not to be taken so seriously at all times. You need to master the art of staying comfortable too, which a thorough perfectionist would not be able to do so. My friends, life is to enjoy the little things. Please do not burn your selves especially when it is not needed.
If you are a perfectionist, you experience too much of pressure. Delaying a task is one of the major downsides of unhealthy perfectionism. At times, things simply get delayed just because you want to do it in a manner no less than perfect. You might often end up sabotaging your chances of success. You might even refrain yourself from achieving things you are actually good at.
It is not easy to get along too far with a perfectionist. Your inclination for everything to be 'just right' is not restricted to things or tasks only. It extends to friends and family as well.
Either you might not find people behaving as per your rule book or your friends might suffer due to your indulgence and devotion towards perfection. The outcome is not a pleasant one anyway.
Perfection calls in for attention to minute details. The detailing gets so exhaustive and takes in so much of time that it eventually affects your productivity. You are so obsessed with your process that you don't even realize that inclusion of every detail is not contributing towards the outcome, rather it affects your productivity.
When you follow all rules of perfectionism, you realize you are the best and so is your strategy to work. In such cases, you are not in a state of mind to accept input from others and therefore do not tend to welcome changes. This is the culmination of stagnation. Your growth graph follows a straight line after that. To grow, one should always have someone to follow.
Being a perfectionist, you are a workaholic, and you sacrifice recreation, food, sleep everything for work. The stress that comes as a by-product gives way to many physical and mental health issues.
A perfectionist lacks self-compassion.Every time you achieve a goal, you set your standards higher to the extent that finally, it becomes so difficult to accomplish that you blame yourself for lacking perfection. Perfectionism leads to unhappiness in the long run.
Easy going is an attribute that perfectionists fail to master. You might act in accordance, but from within, you find it extremely difficult to relax and stay calm. To let go control of your work, your mistakes and your imperfections is the most challenging task- next to impossible.
When you are a perfectionist, you are anxious about the outcome until you achieve it. Anxiety in itself is a mental disorder and in extreme cases might lead to panic attacks and depression too.
If you are brought up in luxury, you cannot adjust in paucity. Same applies to a perfectionist. If you are used to and moreover obsessed with the concept of 100 percent success rate, it gets challenging to embrace failures. Since you put all your efforts in the current plan, a backup plan might not always be ready to deal, or you might even get emotionally devastated.
Since procrastination is a dominant perfectionist trait, so is the inability to do things on an instantaneous note. As proper planning is your core strength, you find it next to impossible to perform leaving the details.
It is not easy to mingle with and work with a perfectionist. The rules and procedures are set in order, and it is not easy to get the entire team to follow every law religiously. Although perfectionists are amazing at delivering the results, challenges do exist.
Being a perfectionist, you would always be seen as a control freak. Unless you are over the friendly and extremely social kind of creature, the chances of gathering a genuine crowd around you are not on the cards.