It was back in 2016 when we'd met through a mutual friend and hit it off from there. We both were very much attracted towards each other and started meeting frequently giving subtle signs of flirting. On one weekend, we met for lunch and ended up talking for hours.
At this point, I knew things are going to take a turn soon, and they did.
Eventually, my love for cheesecake became his, and his love for Narcos became mine. It was like the perfect binding of two individuals who filled the void in each other. Soon 2017 arrived and my rent went high which was unacceptable for me. I discussed this issue with him and we moved in together. It wasn't exactly a live-in relationship because we decided to live in the same apartment with two separate rooms. It turned out to be the best decision, we spent a lot of time together, and when we needed our privacy, we had our respective rooms to head to.
A few months later, the independent & goal-oriented girl inside me made a decision to move back to my hometown, in order to pursue higher studies. The day when I was supposed to leave was closing by and that's when it hit me. A year-long time we'd spent together building this beautiful relationship was finally coming to long distances, and here's everything that it has taught me-
The time I started telling my friends and colleagues about me leaving the city, everyone wished me luck and asked about how am I going to end our relationship. I was surprised at how adamant were people's views on long distance relationships closing the doors for two lovers. I kindly replied that there were no such plans and that we will try to make it work. All I got was a sarcastic smile with "all the best with that", like that was some kind of a warning they were giving.
The day I was fearing for from inside had arrived. I was in the car with him on the way to the airport. It was all fun and laughter listening to some of our favorite songs on the way, trying to neglect what we really were going to face in the next few minutes. It was then that we were walking towards the airport and we finally gave our last hug and that was when I realised how I was so wrong judging others who cried at airports.
The first few days were miserable, but eventually, everything started getting back to normal. We thought of us being inseparable and devastated with the situations we were in. However, we finally dealt with them like adults and stayed positive. Since living in the past wasn't gonna help, we began to focus on our future.
It was my birthday, and all I wanted was to feel his comfort. Though I was still grateful to have my family with me, yet my heart screamed for his affection on the inside. All the time, I was just nostalgic about the memories we had shared.
I was gutted as I expected him to be the first one to call me, but he called me later in the morning. I thought it was best to keep my expectations low.
From having a big question mark on ourselves as what's supposed to happen after two people madly in love increase their physical distances among them to now starting to feel extremely comfortable, even when apart. We both got back to our respective lives and busy in it. Our learnings from the past months were to just keep our expectations low. Regardless of how fine we genuinely were now, it in no way decreased our feelings, which took us by surprise too.
With all that we had gone through, one thing was sure that distance had only made us stronger. The trust and confidence we had in each other increased and the time we spent talking on the phone meant much more than before. We were sure of whatever people had warned us regarding long distance relationships was completely deceitful.
Even though this is not the end of our relationship technically, we still managed to come a long way and learnt lessons the hard way. It is true that everything becomes more beautiful when it ceases to exist. Thankfully, for us, it was only spending time with each other physically that ceased to exist.
For all those who are about to live in a different city away from their partners or are already in a long distance relationship, you will feel bad initially, but remember, that this is just a phase and it will pass, just like everything else. Start working on a future where you can see both of you together.