Every day on my way to the office, I see an old couple sitting outside in the park. I don't know why, but I always felt a positive vibe coming out from there. Today, I went to the couple and had a conversation with them. I was surprised to know that they have been together since their college time. They fell in love, they stood in a relationship for years and then got married.
These days, having a relationship last so long isn't an easy task. Even though some people want it to last, they just fail to do so.
After an hour-long discussion with the couple, I gathered some tips that every girl should follow to keep her relationship ongoing. Go through these points and do let me know if they are helpful as they are coming directly from an experienced couple.
To all women who believe in the 'The Beauty And The Beast' scenario must know that in reality, love doesn't transform people. It is a misunderstanding that your love will nurture and will help your man turn into a one woman man.
Rather than always having the remote in your hand, sit back once in a while and enjoy his preferences. Just like the way he does while watching your favorite show.
It is good that you are an independent woman who doesn't need anyone to look after. But if you want your relationship to be successful, you need to give him the power to control and give him the chance to help. It may be anything, but men actually like being asked to help.
It is good that you want to nag him to become a better person. But sometimes nagging creates a negative impact. Poking him for keeping his room clean, for stop watching the cricket matches, to get up and go to work or to eat and blah blah, you never know when these things can turn into your annoying habits.
Play with him, sometimes tease him, sometimes flirt with him, talk sexy... keep it cheerful, keep it romantic. If you believe he is the one and you really want to spend the eternity with, make him feel that way.
Rather than expecting him to understand all your desires, tell him, use words. Because it is next to impossible for him to read your mind and guess what you wish to do. I know all ladies want their man to know what they are thinking, but how would he know if they won't tell him.
The secret of having a long relationship is knowing that men believe in procrastination, they delay or postpone action. You are expected to be patient about things.
If you want your relationship to last, you need to make him feel alive. This will maintain the spark. Remind him how he used to be in college times. Ask him to learn new things... stalk girls with him.
A good partner is someone who keeps up the sign of motivation and supports his other half. Talk to him about his ambitions, help him with the plans, but never discourage or insult him.
Keeping things in pending mode is never a good option. The best way to solve an issue is to have a conversation about it. Whether it is about his family or about your relationship, a good partner is someone who faces the conversation.
Girls are known for getting things done their way. Well, if it is about a relationship, your plans must involve him. Or if you are planning a surprise, make sure that it won't be inconvenient for him at the end.
A healthy relationship doesn't require a partner to hide his/her Facebook or Instagram messages. But this doesn't mean that your partner is supposed to sneak into your personal life. Men prefer privacy, so next time you see their phone or computer open, leave it as it is.
First, be good with his friends. And when it comes to your friend, do let him meet them. Don't force, but don't hide anything either.
A relationship is all about being together, doing things together... NO! A relationship is about living together but living own life as well. There should be some personal space.
Every relationship is based on knowing each other's worth. The more you appreciate and value each other, the more your relationship strengthens.
After listening to all these points by her, I realized that it isn't so much difficult to have a long-lasting relationship. Don't you think so?
"Nobody can predict the future. You just have to give your all to the relationship you're in and do your best to take care of your partner, communicate and give them every last drop of love you have." - Nick Cannon
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