When I was asked to share my Mother's Day experience I wasn't quite sure what to say. I'm a mother and yes it does get difficult, but it's a beautiful journey. A journey where every day is different, someday it's crazy, some other day it's even crazier and then some day it's just balanced. You'd definitely know what I'm talking about if you are a mother or wait, even a father to a teenager.
I'm a mother of a teenager and trust me, being a daughter or even a daughter-in-law is easier than being a mother of a teenager. But it's just a phase and will pass in a few years, hopefully with less drama and lesser cat fights (yes we do fight; a lot).
All said and done, I'm lucky to have a beautiful daughter whom I love with all my heart and soul and even luckier to get her love in return.
Motherhood is a celebration in itself and it begins from the very day of knowing that you are expecting your bundle of joy and it never ends, not even with your death as a mother's love and blessings remain with her child throughout. Her vibrations are spread in the universe and every atom of the universe carries her love for her children and her grandchildren and their children and so on.
Mother's Day is not to be celebrated on a day but it should be celebrated every moment. Why do you need to make your mother feel special on a single day, your mother is special and yes she needs to be reminded about that and you can and should do it every single day. Telling her how much you love her, how much you appreciate her being there for you, telling her sorry that you have given her tough times, surprising her with small gifts, pampering her with big gifts, giving her time off for herself.
Just a small acknowledgement of her being on standby for you 24x7 of your life that you most of the time feel irritated about.
Yes, I'm a mother and I talk like one too!
Anyway since we are celebrating Mother's Day, let me give you an account of how my darling surprised me last year. This year she's away at my sister's place and planning a Mother's Day surprise for her.
So here goes, Suvarna with her younger cousin Samaira locked me inside my bedroom and asked her dad to not let her mum out.
Streamers, balloons, hangings! They decorated every nook and corner of our drawing room making it a party hub.
I was asked to come out and although I knew what was going on (she does these surprise things every birthday and anniversary, I know that's very sweet of her, am lucky) but I was genuinely surprised as this time it started with flowers.
She knows how much I love flowers and as I entered I was gifted this beautiful bouquet of red roses that were so fresh and dewy it just made everything all the more beautiful.
A scrumptious chocolate cake was waiting to be eaten with sparkling candles on top. I blew on them and they lit up, again and again, I blew on them and again they lit up and this time all three of us, Suvarna, Samaira, and myself blew with mouthful of air and were successful in putting them out but only for a few seconds and they were up again teasing me, making us all laugh and then we neglected the dancing of the flames and finally cut the cake. I offered the first piece to Suvarna and she ate a little and the rest was smeared on my face.
So it began. We all ate some cake and then smeared it on each other's faces, hair and even on the floor.
After the cake spa or fight or fun whatever you call it was over I was handed a wrapped gift. It felt like a dairy or a book and when I opened it I was genuinely moved as it was a Mother's Day quotes book.
The three of us, Suvarna, Bharat (my hubby) and I signed on the first page where it was written 'For the most wonderful Mother. With lots of Love'.
I flipped through all 35 leafs, reading all 70 quotes. The last quote read:
'M' is for the million things she does,
'O' is for the optimism that she shows,
'T' is for the tears she sheds to save all,
'H' is for her heart made of purest gold,
'E' is for her eyes, with love-light shining,
'R' means right, and right she'll always be.
Put them all together, they spell 'MOTHER',
A word that means the world in itself.
Being a mother is an extraordinary feeling that would be difficult or rather impossible to define in words. Being a mother, it seems, is a process of constantly adapting to the needs of a child while also changing and growing as a person in her own right.
I do not leave any opportunity in telling my mother how much love and respect I feel for her. I do share a special bond with my mom-in-law too and convey my love and regards whenever possible but as I have been given this special platform I'd love to wish my mother, mother-in-law and my aunt and also my younger sister who's a big inspiration in my life a very Happy Mother's Day.
Whether you choose to be a mother or not, we all are blessed with a motherly instinct that comes forward when the time calls for it. We play different roles in life being a daughter, sister, friend, wife, daughter-in-law, mother but before all this remember you are you and that should come before any other role.
Wishing all a Happy Mother's Day! And yes every day is Mother's Day :)