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IN People ON 26 Mar, 2015
We all speak of how the world treats women differently, how same opportunities are not available to women.
We speak of building a gender-neutral world, yet we have failed. We had the ideologies, the concepts of feminism, and yet we were unable to establish them. One of the biggest reasons behind the failure is the fact that a majority of people don't realise what feminism stands for. If you go through the Wikipedia page on feminism it reads, 'Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, cultural, personal, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.' That's right, equal rights. Nowhere does it say that women are better than men, or the world needs to be softer on women.
Many people who misinterpret the concept believe that feminism encourages male hate, but that is something farthest from reality. Many a times when 'gender equality' is misunderstood, men are usually blamed for things that are not even their fault. You can't expect special treatment if you aim for equality. You can either have chivalry or equality. you need to decide what is it that you want. You can't advocate a case where you want equal pay as men, yet a man should be the one paying on dates. Equality is a two sided coin. No one gender can individually achieve it. We have to come together as a team and work for it.
Below are 10 ways in which feminism is usually misinterpreted. Let's build a world that respects a person irrespective of the gender.
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Feminism is not female domination, or pro women. By its very definition it stands for equality for all genders. So next time you hear a men's right activist demand equality on the grounds of feminism, don't be surprised. Its you who is mistaken, not him.
The 'He for She' doesn't mean that a woman needs a man to stand by her protecting her rights and making sure that her rights are secure. A woman is capable of fighting her own battles, she doesn't a knight in shining armor, she is one.
Yes, when someone says that all men are same, it is hurtful. I am a man of the 21st century, and i was raised with one ideology that everyone is equal to you. Not every man who passes your way is a rapist, not every guy who smiles at you has an ulterior motive. We know how to keep our business in our pants, and how be friends with a person of opposite gender.
The very idea that a man is incapable of understanding gender equality and adhering to it is pathetic and shallow. We acknowledge the problem and work towards the solution as much as a woman does.
We need to stop looking at men as someone whose sole purpose is to harm women. No battle is won individually. We need to see our fellow people as our own and not as competitors.
Many people think that feminism would lead to female domination. If we know what is it that we aim for, and what is it we are working towards, feminism would only bring equality.
Many times the blame is put on the society for not letting the women rise. To some extent its true, but if you endure towards your goal, strive for excellence and never let anyone tell you that you cant have something because you are a woman, you will see the glass ceiling shatter in front of your eyes.
Feminism doesn't encourage man hate, or support pro female rules. It's existence and establishment of equality.
The sad part about all of this is that many times people who claim to be feminist don't even know the definition. Enforcing a female domination on the grounds of feminism, and falsely accusing a man of things he hasn't done, is as wrong as violating the rights of a woman.
When you want to achieve equality, incentives will be left behind. You can not have both, because they don't exist together.