Falling in love is a beautiful feeling, and every one of us has fallen for someone at some point in our lives. It is not very hard to fall for somebody, and it's not that hard to be with the person you love, but the most difficult thing which everyone would face is to sustain a relationship after getting into one.
A relation is maintained if both the partners put in enough efforts. Just like it takes two hands to clap, similarly, the success of a relationship must be shouldered by both the partners. We tend to ignore or do not give much of importance to many things. Especially if we talk about men, they are least bothered about small issues whereas the girls are very sensitive about them. Each of them has to get over the imperfections.
Here are some important lessons that men need to learn about a relationship to avoid having bad experiences.
At the beginning of any relationship, there is some hesitation and reluctance in sharing feelings and emotions as you might be having a fear of being misunderstood. But as the time passes, your relation evolve, and you get more comfortable with your partner to share everything with him/her.
Exchange of thoughts, feelings, and emotions should not lead a man to be seeking for space. One must accept the fact that things take different shapes with time.
When in the stage of being more comfortable with each other, behavior towards the person you love also changes accordingly. Your partner might start telling you things which she did not like but had to keep with herself as she was not so open with you.
So you must always be open to adapt the behavioral changes that might happen during every passing stage.
It happens, so do take care!
While some are still struggling with the fact that their partner has expectations that they have to fulfil, some are still stuck between the difference of expectation and demand. This is very important for all of us to know that there is a fine line between the two of these characteristics of love or any relationship.
Demands can be unreasonable that is always asked by your partner, and you might be forced to fulfil them, but expectation is something which comes with the input you give to your relationship. It comes as a result of how do you impose yourself to the relationship and the expectations occur accordingly.
We mostly get the partner of slightly or more opposite in nature. If you are more expressive, then your partner could be less as compared to you, if you are more sensitive he/she might be a bit ignorant to things. So, if they seek for all your attention and want to feel important for you, it does not mean they want you to spend your whole day with them.
Thus, don't be bothered.
Most commonly, I have seen, guys think that girls have ego problems because of which they don't try to make things work after every argument and it's the guy who has to take the lead. This is probably a misconception as guys have to be a little bit flexible and work on the acceptance that what they feel is wrong.
Girls are by nature like that if they are involved in something, they do it wholeheartedly and tend to give their 100% to it. They have a high commitment level. So, if she takes out some time and makes herself available for you, it does not mean that she has nothing else to do or nobody else in her life to talk with.
Therefore, you should never consider it the way that she is being chapped.
It is advisable to every guy out there that if you are planning to get into a relationship or already into one, please know what the responsibilities are that will come in your way, and you have to take them up.
As once you are into it, your partner would expect you to do what ideally you should but since you are not ready for it, which can harm both of your emotions and may spoil the beauty of the relationship.
It is not that easy to find out a girl who understands you better, loves you unconditionally and respects you the most. Thus, if you have found one of this kind, it should be your responsibility to keep her self-respect intact.
Arguments, fights and disagreements are the part of every relationship but what keeps you all together is your love and affection. When love is the bond, then try to make sure that ego does not come over it. After every argument or fight, you should not be waiting for each other thinking that who would come forward to make things smooth again.
It should not always be a girl who should take the lead or bend down. As you both have a common goal, i.e., to keep the love and relationship intact hence you should also take a step towards it.
Feelings are meant to be expressed, guys are less expressive in comparison to girls, and that is where the problem starts. Since girls are most likely to be very expressive, they use to express their feelings and love towards you. They automatically start to expect the same from you. Love, of course, is the feeling but expression is its language, it's not just meant to be felt, it should be expressed too.