Among the woman-oriented posts that have circulated recently, this one is basic but important in many ways.
Women differ from men physically, mentally, and psychologically. We are all aware of that. But everyone is eager to know what is going on in a woman's mind? How can she be strong and compassionate at the same time? How can she be a multi-tasking robot by day and an easy going socialite by night?
Well, women play different roles in our lives, or we just perceive them in other ways.
"Madam Secretary" and "The Good Wife" portray thoughtful, smart, and powerful women on TV. And we can point to an array of women who have influenced our history, from Eleanor Roosevelt to Susan B. Anthony to the four women who have served on the Supreme Court." These words were said by Kathleen Kennedy Townsend, a Research Professor at the Centre for Retirement Initiatives at Georgetown.
The United States Federal Glass Ceiling Commission defines Glass Ceiling as "the unseen, yet unbreakable barrier that keeps minorities and women from rising to the upper rungs of the corporate ladder, regardless of their qualifications or achievements."
Since there is a commission especially for the glass ceiling effect, it must be an important issue, right? In the past, the discrimination was outright, but now it's become super sneaky. It massively affected how a woman sees herself. Read what Ronald E Riggio, Ph.D. has to say! https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/200905/the-end-the-glass-ceiling-we-need-new-metaphor
As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a Nigerian writer and a MacArthur Genius Grant award winner, rightly said, "We do a much greater disservice to girls because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of men." They shrink themselves when they hear men complain about how women just want to control 'their men'. If the roles were reversed, men would stand tall and own up to their locker room jokes or "manly" eating habits. Women automatically have to play it cool, so that they don't get called 'sensitive' or 'defensive', if they get offended.
On a much lighter note, who said women have to be patient? Just because they are meant to be timid, people automatically assume that their level of tolerance is high. She must have killed you in her head in 25 different ways in the last 5 minutes, and she's still smiling at you. I'd be careful not to piss them off. It is easy for women with these vivid imaginations, to convert their thoughts into actions.
It's common for women to accept that there are problems.They agree to therapy easily compared to men, who are taught by social norms that they have to be more manly. Men have an equal amount of self-esteem issues compared to women. They can't have breakdowns scheduled because they are too busy tough and strong. Please note the hint of sarcasm. It's sad that men can't seek help out of fear that they may get dissed. Read more about it here. https://psmag.com/aversion-to-therapy-why-won-t-men-get-help-7998d34f1d4e#.mvfdwqy26
A woman loves her family but that doesn't mean she doesn't have what it takes to lead a company. Taking care of a house is like managing a kingdom, with children as troublesome as a battalion. The Queen has a lot of responsibilities. Those who think that women sitting at home have it easy are very much welcome to step into their shoes and try to hold the fort down.
These women have just tied the knot and entered a different phase of their lives. Things seem strange and foreign. It takes some time to settle. They must be happy too, but they don't necessarily have to be happy all the time. Here is some helpful advice from and an old woman to the young ones on love and marriage. https://www.pri.org/stories/2015-02-01/advice-older-women-have-young-love-marriage
Whether in a relationship or single, there is a lot happening in their lives. From falling in love once, to falling in love again and again. It's pure chaos. They are just trying to find themselves. They feel deeply and if something bad happens, they feel like that is how it's going be for the rest of their lives. They won't listen to adults because honestly, what do adults know? It gets better, they just don't know it yet.
Don't try to be the problem solver as they aren't the problem. It's the situation. Solve the situation.
If you don't know what's wrong, ask her. There's no rule that says you can't, just like there's no rule that you should automatically know what's wrong.
Let her speak her mind. Don't hold it against her if she disagrees with you. Don't do the mistake of blaming it on her period. You will lose her respect because PMS is a serious matter to a woman. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.
They need to constantly be assured that everything will be okay. They might feel certain at times but other times, their mind runs ahead of them, and they could turn to you for support. Give it to them.
Instead of asking why women are hard wired this way, appreciate how women manage such stressful thoughts on a daily basis. We are grateful for the women in our lives. In case more help is needed click here.