Whenever someone thinks of a break-up or a divorce, the first impression that forms in our minds is that the people involved in the break-up aren't going to be amiable to each other anymore. It's hard to say why we all tend to think this same thing. Maybe it's because most break-ups occur due to regular fights, and after breaking up, the ex-partners don't even try to patch things up as friends. Or maybe it's because most movies and other pop culture elements portray break-ups in such a style. Whatever be the reason, there's no denying that most break-ups around us don't really end well.
However, there are some rare, few cases in which the separation takes place calmly, and the ex-partners stay friends even after they've broken up. But some people simply don't seem to get this sort of break-up. They simply can't wrap their minds around it and accept that such a separation is even possible. And because of that, they don't quite understand why the ex-partners stay in touch or even help each other after they've separated.
Billy Flynn Gadbois, a father of two, was continuously pestered with questions of why he helps his ex-wife and does good things for her. And he has the perfect response. But what he points out brings us to a very important point - that it is important to see the bigger picture. Check it out.
Well, the default thought is that the ex-partners aren't going to be in touch. In fact, they probably won't even be amiable to each other.
Well, one reason could be the fact that most break-ups around us are less than peaceful. Or maybe, it's because of the light in which break-ups have been portrayed in pop culture elements for all this time.
In fact, some people are so convinced that two people can't break up without fighting that they can't wrap their minds around the fact that some people actually manage to stay friends even after separating!
And so, Billy decided to give these people a reply through a Facebook post. He said that he is raising two men with his ex-wife and that the way he treats their mother will shape how they treat women.
He says that this is what will shape their perceptions of relationships, and so, it is important to model good relationship behavior. In his own words, "Raise good men. Raise strong women. The world needs them, now more than ever."
For example, he tries to teach by example that boys can be men even while wearing pink shorts.
And it's the parents' job to make sure that the kid feels that way. After all, it's ultimately about the kids, and one must do anything and everything for them. And that includes being in good terms with the ex-wife. Billy is probably the perfect dad, simply because he has his priorities right! So let's all take a page from his book...