It is said, "India is the most dangerous country for a girl child to survive."
Yes, a controversial United Nations finding based on the pathetic Indian social statistics, claimed this research (much of which dates back to the time of the colonial rule.)
Throughout the country, if you go up and down the caste ladder, the joy of parenthood differs by the gender of the child. The birth of a girl is equivalent to a tragedy or disappointment.
While the system of dowry, child marriage is still prevalent in the rural regions, it has stopped being a burden in the urban areas.
I get filled with rage when I think about all these experiences, and I read the newspaper, but there is a start to everything; a start to change. When I go back to my childhood and remember my first day of school, all I remember are the beautiful memories.
The topic is a bittersweet journey to talk about, but there are still positive aspects that I would love to bring light to.
I am a 25 years old daughter born and brought up in a city in a moderately nuclear semi-conservative family. My answer might differ from the most people posting online but believe me; everything is truth.
"Be nice. Don't be loud. Don't be stubborn. Respect others. Don't speak out. Be a good wife. Be a good daughter. Be a good sister. Uphold the family honor." Aren't guys asked to do the same too?
Because I always saw my parents working together for the house, helping each other finish off all chores. Be it, my father earning for the family and my mommy earning and serving us food daily.
I have a brother and he did sweep and mop the floor when I used to study. Sometimes, it was us who used to handle the chores at home.
I was a hard working PCM student and knowing my interest; my parents got me enrolled in a reputed coaching institute of my city, even when the fees burnt their pockets and my education was difficult with another baby around. They expected me to pass all examinations and always motivated me successfully. At the end when things did not go well, and I couldn't make it to a prestigious college, I was devastated. My parents were my biggest support; they never said anything cliche like "you are a girl you don't need to work" or anything of that sort, rather they always trusted me completely and knew I'd have a bright career ahead.
Even if I get late sometimes, my parents, brothers/ friends make it sure to keep me safe. I even have Vcare installed, and if not I have my phone in hand.
If I want something, I get it. But these desires don't include unjustified whims and demands.
But unlike many other Indian parents, my mom and dad never asked me to ignore it; rather my mommy always taught me how to stay aware of the people around. She even told me how to take appropriate actions when things go wrong.
It surely is a bitter-sweet experience but at least, we have a bunch of people around who really care. India definitely needs to change. Not just boys or not just girls, we all need to change.
I am proud to be a GIRL!
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