Bride Wanted: Looking for an educated, homely, tall, slim, beautiful and gori girl for a very well educated, well settled, cultured and liberal boy with family values and assets.
Read through the ad once, once again and maybe one more before you find the paradoxes of the world we live in! There are more than many reasons to criticize the groom for adding so many filters in his bride search; however, what often gets compromised is empathy!
Yes, the groom surely deserves a lot of empathy! Managing the expectations of your family with those of yours is not an easy task, and he is always put in a spot where he has to prove himself to be a perfect son and a perfect husband!
Finding a partner is a too tricky task for a guy! It is much more than finding the perfect partner; it is also about finding the perfect family member who can seamlessly fit into the perfect family picture without looking the odd one out. Finding a species similar to yours topped up with the complexities of dealing with a woman can definitely be a grilling struggle.
Stuck between a rock and a hard place, here are a few dilemmas men battle with when they have to decide on the perfect life partner for themselves.
Would she be the baby doll sort… the pampered girls who can never compromise on the attention they get? If yes, then it is going to be too difficult to match up to her expectations! It may get worse if she decides to crib about me or our lives 24*7…!
"Honey… I don't have anything to wear for your sister's baby shower party; I think I should go to Milan?" You know what she said when we had gone dinner…She was so LS!
Is she the 'Homely' & 'Educated' girl the obsessive types? The one who would never give me my space, get back home on time, don't hang out with those guys or maybe she is one of those who would like my boys' gang get together... (I want to be with you every moment of my life… I love you so much Xoxo)
What if she is the stalker who checks my phone, my Facebook profile, my emails– she just can't stop suspecting me, I have no cure of her insecurity or the fears that I am cheating on her… sleeping with someone else!
Would the 'BEAUTIFUL AND GORI GIRL' be a Snooty Madame or would she be humble and respectful towards my family and me? She may have airs about her richness…intellect or class, something that can make her arrogant! Risky isn't it?
The snobbish girls are too difficult to please– no matter what you do, you can never keep them happy, and the others are the Coochi Coochi girls! Too much mush– Babu, Did you eat lunch… Shona, please pick me from the beauty salon… You are my sugar pie and candy floss too! Errr!
Most women irrespective of their prototype eventually have one similarity- It is difficult to handle them, you can never predict when she would switch from the independent– educated woman of today zone to the 'delicate something' space! Be it the roaring lioness or the purring cute cat, best is to handle with care!
Something one can never deal with is the woman who is always PMSing! They are always irritated, cannot just smile or be polite– talk to her and she would sprawl… Every man hopes never to encounter one of those women and if they do they just escape!
Assuming that she is none of the above, let's say she is balanced sorts and we can work things around, the next dilemma for the men to deal with, especially the one on the matrimony page is about her interest in sex! Is she shy– coy Indian bride or would she be fun and experimental? If I talk about it, she wouldn't even take a second to call be a pervert, but if I don't, we wouldn't know if we have the spark between us!