President Obama didn't fail to strike an emotional chord with his fans and followers even in his farewell speech to the people of America. While a few were blown away by his cautionary remarks on the threat to American democracy, the others were emotional about his exit from the White House. He was moved to tears as he expressed his gratitude to his wife Michelle for standing beside him throughout his journey in and out of the White House.
"Michelle Lavaughn Robinson, girl of the South Side -- for the past 25 years, you have not only been my wife, the mother of my children, you have been my best friend," Obama said. "You took on a job you didn't ask for, and you made it your own with grace and with grit and with style and good humour."
There is nothing more moving for a woman than the acknowledgement from her man for her contribution to his life! And yes, it makes trending news when the most powerful man on the earth stands up to thank his wife for her support that actually helped him gather the strength to rule the world.
But the irony is that we as a society are not too conducive to the idea of men paying such tributes to their wives or being appreciative of their companionship.
Here are a few reasons:
It probably doesn't suit the ego of the man to give the total control of the house to the women. Appreciating her, paying heed to her advice or to give her the liberty to decide for the house actually dilutes the man's authority. But we still talk about gender equality and women's rights! The protests sadly are good for the news channels, the realities at the grass root level however only make it to the fiction series on GECs.
They say that the environment in which a child is raised eventually plays an important role in the personality he adopts as an adult. The fact that one had never seen his father appreciate his mother for being a home – maker or for devoting her life to the family, makes him believe that serving the family and self-sacrifice are imperative for a woman.
In the Western world, the men in the house are, right from their childhood, trained to participate in the daily chores of the house. But in India, the man in the house is generally not supposed to play a significant role in the micro – management of the homely affairs!
It takes two to clap! And the same is true for any society that is still struggling to empower their women. They have been dominant by men and enslaved by the so-called traditions and social values for so long that they virtually believe that being servile is an integral part of femininity!. Servility has somehow become synonymous to womanhood and sadly is also propagated by women. So if a woman herself doesn't recognize the effort it takes to be a homemaker or to be a working professional and also to the manage household, it is surely an over the top expectation from the men in house who virtually have zero or zilch idea of struggles that one has to go through to set up a perfect family!
I think we surely need to learn to be more humble and conscious of the importance of gratitude and acknowledgement in our inter – personal equations.
As Obama said – Yes we can! Even I believe We can!
P.S. The views expressed in the article is writer's personal opinion.