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IN Lifestyle ON 04 Jan, 2017
Ask married couples about their married life, and the answer you get most of the time is, "everything changes after marriage." Is marriage that bad?
It surely doesn't have to be that way! If you keep these few points in mind before you say the magical words, " I do" then you're going to do great even after marriage. So let's get started.
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It's important to travel with the one you're thinking of settling down with because when you journey with that person, you feel what it is like to be free with one another. You learn to understand that person better; how you react with one another and how comfortable you are with each other even in the most uncomfortable situations. Travel gets you out of your 'comfort zone' so go on and plan those trips!
Yes, have those arguments and have loads of them before you marry. You want to know whether your accomplice is a person who stands their ground or a one who just walks out the door everytime issues get heated up. You want to know if your accomplice takes the relationship seriously the way you do. Emotions and feelings need to come out, just bottling them up is not a good idea!
Don't shy away from discussing your finances. Work together and plan out things, don't be ashamed if your partner earns more than you. Be a person to support and share all the way through!
Let your accomplice know what according to you is being dishonest. Is flirty texting dishonest? Or is 'sleeping with another' dishonest? Spell it out loud and clear to each other, so the rules are laid down straight before you dive deeper into something more serious.
Get a system in place and come to an agreement about sharing household duties. Working together and sharing the household duties makes life so much easier for both of you. Marriage no way means slacking off on family duties!
Yeah, very important thing to be discussed! If you plan to have kids, then say it. You need to know whether your accomplice thinks the same way like you do because you don't want to get into something and later find out your accomplice 'hates kids.'
Discuss what you expect from each other and your marriage. Your future must be a mixed effort and what you need for yourselves and each other. Speak your mind without holding back anything because that's what marriage is all about!
Live in together before you think of getting married to 'the one' because you want to feel and know what it is like to stay with that person. Marriages fall apart because couples realise only once they start living together that they don't like certain habits about their partner. So knowing someone entirely and wholly before is a better option than regretting it later!
When you first fall in love, you simply show your best side - that's nice! But you got to remember that it's not possible to be your best even after marriage because sooner or later the person is going to see you at your worst as well. So, let go and show each other your worst side too!
So, all the best for a happy and prosperous married life!