Success doesn't come to those who don't strive for it. You need to make conscious efforts in order to get your name counted among the top people. Besides efforts, dedication, and discipline, there is something else that distinguishes the famous from the ordinary. And that, my friend, is a good body language!
If you are someone who wants to be counted in the league of Barack Obama, Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg, then adapt the below-mentioned body language features today and step closer to success.
A strong handshake is a sign of strength and confidence. Never start with a feeble handshake as it will give an impression of you being a weak personality. Always give a firm handshake and rotate your wrist (a bit) in a way that your hand is on the top of the other person's to give out an impression of dominance.
A smiling face is always appreciated over a gloomy or serious one. Smile when greeting someone or making a friendly communication in order to show your acceptance and affability.
However, it is imperative that you know when to smile and when to keep your lips from curving up.
A sloppy posture or droopy shoulders give away an impression of a weak personality. A bad posture is not just a poor health and lifestyle sign but also snatches away your chances of being regarded as respectful or equal to the other person. Maintain a good posture while communicating is considered to be worthy of respect and admiration.
No successful person is ever seen with his/her forehead facing the floor, chin bent low, shoulders drooping down or back slumped.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Nobody likes to be talking to someone who seems uninterested and disrespectful. Turning your face away or looking around while someone is talking to you only shows that you are disregarding his/her words and presence. It can also reflect anger, distrust, anxiety, fear, consciousness and indiscipline.
None of these traits will ever find you a place in someone's heart, which means your chances of being accepted and treated with respect diminish.
It is always recommended to look into the eyes of the person you are communicating with, to show that you are attentive and interested in the talks. However, a continuous gaze at someone's eyes can look disturbing or weird to the other person and may imply that you are trying to force yourself into the communication or are simply practicing all your body language lessons. Instead, try the facial triangle trick and rotate between the two eyes and mouth of the person to show that you are reading their lips besides participating attentively in the communication.
You will never see a successful person staring into the eyes of the other person; they are always looking relaxed and follow the facial triangle trick for a smooth conversation.
Rubbing your face, neck or hands are signs of stress and anxiety. It also shows that you are not confident or sure about how to go about doing the work assigned to you. This lack of confidence in yourself will reflect in the other person's impression about you and he/she too will not be confident of you.
Successful people do not do any of this and are always high in confidence.
Fidgeting unnecessarily or tapping your fingers and feet may again mean that you are distracted and under confident. It may imply your nervousness and anxiety, which isn't a good sign. To keep yourself from fidgeting, you can try to steeple your hands to come across as intelligent, confident and interesting.
This is often seen in the body language of politicians who want to come across as someone trustworthy.
The superhero pose or power pose literally works wonders for humans, especially when you are gearing up for a high-stake or a significant scenario. It not only makes you feel strong, confident and powerful, but also gives out the same impression to others. This pose boosts your testosterone levels and decreases your cortisol or stress levels and enables you to take on the challenges with poise.
You must have often seen models, actors and celebrities striking this pose in public and now that you know the reason behind it, practice it for yourself.
Too much of anything is not good and same applies to your body gestures. Using your body or expressions in an exaggerated manner will make you come across as someone boisterous and over enthusiastic. Be subtle and a little reserved when communicating with others if you want to be taken seriously.
A successful person ensures that he does not overdo his gestures and remains poised and relaxed on the outside even if an anxious tornado is churning up his insides.
Crossing your arms convey a defensive and skeptical attitude. The other person feels you are trying to distance yourself or are ready to strike an argument if you have crossed your arms in front of you. If you want to be accepted and let the people around you stay at ease and connected with you, then refrain from crossing your arms.
Now that you have learned the body language secrets of successful people, it is time to start practicing them and adapt them to your routine.