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IN Lifestyle ON 23 Nov, 2016
When you are in a relationship, it becomes really important to put the effort to keep the spark and love alive. Everything seems to be a bliss initially but then somewhere down the lane, a few months or even years later, something occurs, leaving you scratching your head in skepticism.
What went wrong? Was it me or him? If you wondered these questions in the recent past then you really need to have a check on your behaviors.
Relationships get destroyed when communication breaks as it's not only about the words you choose but your actions and behavior are equally important in a relationship.
So, have a look at these behaviors listed below and avoid them.
P.S - People change, not relationships.
Well, making an eye contact while talking is a must. If you don't make eye contact with your partner, he or she might feel that you aren't paying 100% of your attention. Ensure to hold their gaze as they say.
A bad break-up can land you in the world of negativity and regret. So, do a favor yourself and your partner and move on, leaving your past relationship behind.
This is the very basic thing which could kill a relationship.
Trust is one of the strong pillars for a long-term relationship. It is better to sort trust issues before jumping into a relationship. Trying to make a relationship work without trust is the final self-sabotage.
Are you constantly complaining and finding new things to whine about? It could be quite irritating to listen to someone who is nagging all time. Complaining brings people and relationship down as it's not much fun to be around someone who finds drama in everything.
Remembering important dates like – the date you got engaged, married or your anniversary date and birthdays is very important to keep the spark alive in a relationship. If you scoot past these dates without celebrating, it can make your partner feel unloved.
When you start focussing on just yourself, when it's just all about your hobbies, interests and goals and when you start doing all these things, your partner starts feeling neglected and resentful. So, it is necessary to give equal importance to your spouse as you give it to your career and yourself.
Some people tend to use sex as a part of punishment and reward to condition their spouse on what they want them to do in the relationship. If you are using sex as a tool to control them, you cannot withhold it forever. At some point, your partner would likely turn to someone else because sex is a basic human need and therefore, will have the need being met somehow.
If you want an amazing relationship you need to make sure you are treating your partner correctly, with love and respect at all times.
Are you doing any of these?