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Many people might argue that sex is overrated, and by people, I mean a regular group of women discussing on this "hot" topic. What is supposed to be pure fun may just be a total nightmare or simply a way of life for some. Most of you must have rubbished off the last sentence but believe me, there are people who have sex fears.
Men don't take much time to drop their pants whenever a lucrative/suitable opportunity knocks their door but women, on the other hand, have certain things running in their mind. And no, I am not talking about the experienced and confident lot; I am referring to those who have not had enough chances to come out of their cocoon and are yet to uncover the mystery behind the much-hyped act - sex. Now let us further understand the reasons or fears that keep women from having an amazing experience.
For starters, most women are not comfortable in their skin and feel that their body is not good enough to turn on a man. The fear of being perceived as unattractive - when undressed - keeps them from enjoying it.
Some women are doubtful of their abilities and feel they are not good in bed. This fills them with an unwanted anxiety and leaves them under-confident while making out.
There is no denying the fact that pregnancy is the biggest fear every woman has (except when you are trying to conceive). There is always a fear of your partner not willing to put on a condom during the act, which might put you in a situation where you are more bothered about his ejaculation than your orgasm. Valid fear indeed!
Your partner is understanding enough and believes in safe sex, good! However, the condom isn't your most trustworthy friend and may plan to ditch without prior warning. That is enough to freak a woman! She is permanently praying silently for a safe and happy ending and hence isn't able to concentrate on the pleasurable part of sex.
Farting, funny noises, a back sprain etc. are some of the body functions that don't need your consent. They may happen out of the blue and leave you embarrassed. These fears are quite valid and make a woman conscious while making love. However, they shouldn't be a concern if your partner loves you and is "human" enough to understand the body functions.
Not every bedroom session necessarily results in an orgasm, and that isn't a big deal either. If your partner doesn't climax due to some reason, by no way does it mean that you are a failure? But women feel accomplished seeing their man climax and this is what they want to achieve every time they indulge in a love-making session. And we all know that trying too hard for something isn't fun!
It isn't easy for a woman to climax and you will be surprised to know that 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm. To add to it, 80% of women are unable to orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. This statistics is reason enough for a woman to be skeptical about sex and this doubt shadows her thoughts while the man is already at his peak.
Not all the positions are that easy. While it may not be that difficult for a man, some positions demand a really flexible and strong body of a woman that in a way completely negates the idea of a pleasurable sex. How on this earth can you expect a woman to enjoy the act while having her innocent anal region torn apart and simultaneously maintaining her balance?
You've met a man at the bar and the attraction is irresistible; the next moment you find yourself naked with his hands all over you. Would he pull away immediately if suddenly your conscience knocks at your door or you start feeling strange? With a head full of doubts and body full of raging hormones, one question that totally pours water over an amazing sexual experience is what if he doesn't take "NO" for an answer? Ruins spread around gaping at you.
And here comes the elephant of all fears - the STI! Your partner may not accept that he has an STI or he may have never even gotten himself checked. Even worse, he has STI and is carrying it around without any symptoms...When such fears are lurking in your mind, it is next to impossible to "enjoy" sex.
Most of the women have these fears somewhere at the back of their mind when it comes to sex. Though these fears are not as strong in case your sex partner is your husband or boyfriend who you have known for quite some time, but they are one helluva big deal if you indulge in casual dating and sex. Play safe!
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