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IN Lifestyle ON 20 Oct, 2016
Narcissistic personalities are increasing by the day. It usually innates among the people from the corporate sector or individuals who achieve early fame. A narcissist will seem to be the kindest, most caring, generous, attractive, and trustworthy person to someone who doesn't know them. But eventually, they will turn into a frustrating roller coaster.
So how to identify a narcissistic personality before you're in it too deep? Here's how.
For a narcissistic person, it is NEVER their fault. It is ALWAYS your fault. If they did something wrong, it's not their fault. It's your fault because you got hurt. For them, it could also be your fault because you have feelings.
If you catch them doing something wrong red-handed, they'd probably deflect by saying they 'had to' do it because of something or someone. If you try to explain that they did wrong, they would come out of it by lying or making excuses.
The more you hang out with a narcissist, the more you'll know that they lie. They can lie to manipulate you, to influence you, or simply lie out of habit. They will never consider telling the truth because honesty is only a word for them.
The only time a narcissist will tell the truth is when the truth doesn't cost them to do anything. They don't consider telling the truth important, and the truth is often molded in their eyes.
The only way narcissists make themselves feel bigger is by putting the other person down. Making people feel small is their way of rising. No one ever will prove to be worthy or any good to a narcissist. If you have any different opinions, you are directly considered to be 'wrong.'
Narcissists literally have two faces, a stage face and a real face. Not one is like the other. For someone who doesn't know a narcissist well, will think they are the kindest person they have ever met. Narcissists use this quality in order to be charming and gain favors from people.
Somebody who knows a narcissist for a long time will know how much of a toxic, frustrating and annoying person a narcissist really is. The mere mention of their name can make some people uneasy.
Narcissists have an obsessive desire to make anyone 'pay' who crosses their way. If you talk about honesty or fairness, you become their enemy. There are no lengths or boundaries that can stop a narcissist to punish you if you do so much as say a word against them.
Narcissists have no lengths of time through which they will keep hating you. The intensity of the hatred and the desire to get even will never wear off and you become their ultimate enemy even if you did the right thing.
Usually, we tend to project our emotions onto others during a fight but a narcissist will use projection as a means to deflect the blame at all times. They might have just lied to you, but you're about to be blamed for not being truthful to them.
If they did something wrong to you, you will eventually be blamed for getting angry at them. In a relationship with a narcissist, you will often be criticized and also be blamed if you express your emotions.
Narcissists never understand healthy boundaries and fairness. They will do whatever it takes to win and stoop to any levels to prove their superiority. They will know your weak spots and know when to make the exact target so that they can erode your confidence and once again, emerge more powerful than you.