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IN Lifestyle ON 18 Oct, 2016
Even if you are an upfront kind of person, there are certain personal issues that you may not like to discuss with anyone. One of the issues can be of a painful sexual intercourse. This is something that you wouldn't like to share even with your doctor. But there are many things you need to know about vaginismus. Yes, vaginismus is the term used for sexual pain experienced by women while having intercourse.
In that case, many of the men often feel helpless, thinking, 'What can I do to help my woman?' Well, the truth is that there are numerous things men can do to help. The best they can do is by being supportive to their partner.
Moreover, if you want to help your woman in this trial, then just follow these nine steps and make your relationship stronger than ever.
Don't keep asking her about when she will be ready or when you guys will be able to have sex perfectly. Well, it is you who has to understand and shift the whole attention towards her and her condition. So without considering only your specific need in the moment, you should be more concerned to her problem.
I have known people who so desperately want to have PIV sex with their partner but the inability to have it leave them in frustration. Well, it is normal to cry in frustration but blaming your partner for that is completely incorrect.
One thing that you should learn is that there are so many, in fact, endless possibilities of having a wonderful sexual experience even without penetration factor. So, instead of feeling limited to it, you can get more creative and kinky in the bedroom by the unique ideas other than just vaginal penetration.
See, a painful intercourse can be a downfall in your sex life. So, it is best not to lament over your partner's temporary impotence to be penetrated. Also, her inability is no way a sign of feelings for you. So you don't have to be judgemental and just avoid societal expectations.
Be gentle, understand and accept the fact that your partner is at least trying to be as best as possible. If you have chosen to be part of her journey, support her in the recovery process and bodily autonomy.
Love your partner's body the same way you love yours. Accept her as it is instead of the way you want her to be.
Don't force her as you are not at all entitled to penetrate her, nor is penetration the ultimate goal. Just because society often takes sex as a PIV action doesn't mean you have to consider it too. Different things for different folks.
Even if the intercourse is difficult, you can continue involving in other love-making ways as complete avoidance of sexual activities will only amplify your relational troubles instead of solving. So, it is important to form the intimate bonds through other options.
Apart from emotional support, you should even go for medical support so as to lessen the effects of vaginismus. Medication would help a lot in the issue.