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Women need utmost care and attention during their pregnancy. As the pregnant women experience mood swings most of the time, it is necessary for everyone to be humble with them. However, there are pregnant women who suffered humiliation and rudeness.
Pregnant women were asked a question on Reddit: "What's the rudest/most unwelcome thing someone has said to you about your pregnancy?" Here, I am sharing the heart-wrenching answers given by Reddit users that reveal the rudest thing ever said to pregnant women.
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I was 20 but looked 15. "Didn't anybody ever teach you to keep a quarter between your knees?"
I've had a couple of wonderful comments, but the most unwelcome were "At least if you lose this baby, you can always try for a girl!" I'm currently expecting my second son.
"It's not really your baby because you're on Medicaid. It's mine because I paid for it with my taxes."- my lovely mother.
By the way, I was working and also pay taxes.
"You're having a girl, aren't you? I can always tell. Girls steal your beauty."- a relative who was subsequently disowned.
I am currently not wearing my wedding ring at 36 weeks. My feet, legs, hands, and fingers are swollen so much I feel like a Macy's day parade balloon.
"Oh, is everything okay with you and the daddy?" No, I ate him, get out of my face or I will eat you too.
My husband and I announced that we were pregnant to the family this Easter. At the time I was 12 weeks along. Last October, we lost our first pregnancy at 11 weeks, and it was horrible! His grandmother had the nerve to respond. "Well, I mean, it's not as exciting as the first time you were pregnant, but at least you're farther along than the last."
I cried in the guest room.
"You sure it isn't twins" is always a winner. Right up there with the disgusted looks when I tell a stranger they cannot touch my belly. :-\
I lost a ton of weight after my first was born. About 110lbs. The store manager where I worked would always comment on my weight loss, little things like I was "wasting away" etc. Anyhow, I get pregnant with my second and as soon as I started showing: "Wow, you just keep packing that weight back on, huh? Must be hard. All that work you did was for nothing because you just keep packing that weight back on." It seems so petty and small, but it hurt. I worked really hard to get in shape, and here this b*tch was getting a lot of joy out of tearing me down.
A few days ago one of my patients was asking me about training and my schedule, and it came up that I won't be able to travel for away rotations because I'll have a newborn. She asked if I had a newborn, and I reiterated that I would have a newborn in a week. She told me she didn't think I was pregnant, just really fat, and she'd been wondering how I was going to be a good doctor if there were simple things I couldn't do (I couldn't bend down to the ground to put her shoes on her feet).
Then she grilled me on my lack of wedding band. I haven't been wearing my rings because they don't fit. Because I am nearly 39 weeks pregnant. I am having a baby in a week, but I don't look pregnant. K.
Was pregnant with my first at age 24/25. I was shopping at a local pharmacy/convenience store in which two elder ladies started to use that "shocked" sarcastic tone between each other making sure I could hear them. The topic was "Oh what a shame it is for all these children to having children. Teenagers should just learn how to keep out of trouble!" type exchange.
I realized they were talking about me, assuming I was a pregnant teenager, and I too was too bloated to wear my wedding ring. So I chimed in "Yes, It's a shame when teenagers don't plan their pregnancies or use birth control. I'm just glad I was smart enough and waited until I was married and in my mid-twenties to have my family".
I then checked out in a very glorious, but awkward silence.
So I got crazy sick with my second kid. Uncontrollable barfing (30+ times a day). I was hospitalized 9 times for the eleventh week for ketones in my urine/dehydration/electrolyte imbalance/malnutrition when I got a permanent IV line (PICC line) and home healthcare so I could mainline massive amounts of antiemetic drugs and give up trying to drink and just do IV hydration.
Random people everywhere: "Oh, have you tried crackers and ginger ale?" Yeah, because I totally went for a PICC line without first trying the easiest/least invasive treatment. Runner up "Oh yeah my wife and I had horrible morning sickness. She threw up every day for a month. It was awful." Please, tell me again how horrible it was. I never got that lucky and I wish I had it that good!
I didn't find out the sex of the baby ahead of time, and that was apparently shocking for some people. So many people were flabbergasted that we wouldn't have a pink or blue nursery- I even had someone who was very concerned about what kind of clothes we would bring the baby home from the hospital in- hopefully, my son was not too emasculated in his yellow onesie!
My first trimester, I brought ziplock bags with me wherever I went and was throwing up on buses and subways frequently ...the looks people gave me. Or the snide comments. I've had people tell me I'm obviously an alcoholic, I need to get my life together, or that I'm a mess.
Once, I managed to get off the train in time and was vomiting into a snow bank, and these college kids walked by me and went "Ohhhhhh! WASTED!" And in between heaves I said, "no, pregnant!" And these freaking jerks said "oh got herself accidentally knocked up" so I held up my hand to show my wedding rings (while still heaving) and said "No, married and trying for a baby and after a miscarriage, I'm pregnant, leave me the F**K alone!"
"If you keep growing like that... you'll have a ten pound baby!!!"
"I hope it's a boy, for your husband's sake."
During my first trimester, I was taking to someone about going out to get ice cream for my birthday. A person told me "the little one doesn't need a lot so don't eat too much."
I don't keep ice cream at home, so it was really a special treat. It's like I just can't eat a normal amount of ice cream on my birthday...I got a small as I was planning on it (screw the mini, it was my birthday).
People treat you like you are just an incubator and no longer a person.
"You shouldn't tell people yet in case you have a miscarriage." My SO didn't even know the lady.
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