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Why Did I Never Become Her Boyfriend? She Gave Me 5 Surprising Reasons

She became my infatuation the day I saw her in mall that evening...

It was a lovely evening when I was crossing the foot-over bridge of the TI mall in Indore (India) to take a taxi home. Little did I know that I was about to get lucky.

As I was going down the escalator, a girl with her girlfriend was traversing her way to the mall. Our eyes met for a good 3 seconds and it was as if our heads were fixated towards each other. The pull between us was strong that it forced me to turn my head when I reached the bottom of the escalator. Surprisingly, I found her eyes on me as she stood on the top of the stairs. 

**deep breathing**

I panicked, this was unexpected! Did the unluckiest person on the earth just had a CHANCE? My reflexes didn't take a second and I waved my hand towards her to which she responded, with a smile. I knew I had it, I knew I got a pretty looking, curly-haired girl infatuated with me. But the thing that kept on nagging me was- Did I get it right?

3 years later...

We became the bestest of buddies but the chord of love never really struck. I wanted her, not as a friend, not effing as a sister, but as my girlfriend. I wasted no more time to ask her where I went wrong that made my chances of a potential boyfriend nil? (And I chose the late night hours to do that)

To which she replied thoroughly and I jotted down the 5 areas where I needed an improvisation to impress a girl like her...

Why Did I Never Become Her Boyfriend? She Gave Me 5 Surprising Reasons

Why Did I Never Become Her Boyfriend? She Gave Me 5 Surprising Reasons

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She- You have a low self-confidence

She- You have a low self-confidence

She started bashing me by pointing towards a very important personality trait that I lack, my morale. She told me that it's a complete turn-off for her when I cannot deal with tough situations with ease and when I don't take a stand against the wrong. She went on to tell me that she wants me to work on it.

I- What should I do to get confident?

I- What should I do to get confident?

She replies- ''Stop trying too hard, have the attitude that makes you stay ready to play in the toughest of the situations.'' I think she was right, a guy is always expected to stay strong and make her girl (even if she herself is very tough) feel an aura of carefreeness when he is around.

A girl wants to feel protected around her guy!

She- You are very arrogant!

She- You are very arrogant!

She told me that she was attracted to me in the initial phase but my arrogance took no time to kill the feeling she had for me. She further added- ''The last thing a girl will like in a guy is his rudeness.'' And I could not agree more.

Probably, I was oblivious to this trait of mine?

I- How can I lighten things up?

I- How can I lighten things up?

She gave me the perfect advice. She told me that as ''Respect is jewel to a woman, politeness and chivalry are garments to men.'' Since I wanted to be everything but rude in my life, I knew that I have to make this right.

The conversation went on...

She- You look shabby!

She- You look shabby!

What? This was the only thing I was proud of and she bombarded that too!

With eyes of an angel, she told me, ''When I first saw you outside the mall, you were that well-dressed guy with a groomed beard and fit body, but now you're everything opposite.''

I was saddened but I had to ask her the most important question which was capable of turning around my look completely...

I- How can I style up?

I- How can I style up?

And she gave me the best advice present under the sun.

She emphasized when she said that, ''I need you not as handsome as Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise or Harvey Spectre, but at least the best you can be.'' Even after such a beautiful explanation (as everything coming from her mouth is), I was still unsatisfied and wanted a to-the-point answer. I interrupted her in the middle to ask...

Where to get that one-stop-guide to style up in the most attractive way?

She replied- ''StyleDotMe is that one place where you can get it all. I am a happy user of it and am overwhelmed with the variety of outfits available. The virtuoso stylists advise you the best, according to your body type and taste.''

I needed nothing else and wasted no time to take out iPhone and download it to impress her ASAP. She loved my energy and pointed out towards another thing I lacked in...

She- You're self-obsessed.

She- You're self-obsessed.

I used to possess this very bad habit and naturally, it quickly came to her notice. She told me that I was self-obsessed. She became aggressive and said, ''If you keep talking and bragging about what you like and want from life 24x7, where is the space where I get to have my say in a conversation?''

I was having my head low and just one question in my mind...

I- How can I get selfless?

I- How can I get selfless?

There is a very thin line between being self-obsessed and having self-confidence, you cross it, and you will fall flat on your face.

She told me that selflessness is an art to be perfected only with time. Telling me to practice this art every moment, she promised me that I will come out as an achiever of enlightenment.

By this time, her voice had gotten calm, and I was just hoping for a kind hug coming my way, but her luscious lips went further...

She- You lead a dull lifestyle

She- You lead a dull lifestyle

Girls are usually into bad guys who waste no time watching daily soaps or leading the same-old dull and boring life that talks about no thrill at all.

She pointed, ''What do we talk about when you don't have anything worth telling? If you'll do nothing extraordinary with your life, you can't hope for anything great to happen with you.''

I got curious and asked...

I- How can I get industrious?

I- How can I get industrious?

Be sporty, she said.

I was seen at the nearest Table Tennis club the very next day and playing at the Nationals 2 years later only to win her back. Today, she likes to see me getting endorsement offers and playing well. I owe all this to the advice that made me- high on confidence, down to earth, well-groomed, sporty and selfless.

Olympics 2020, I am coming with my girl...


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