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IN Lifestyle ON 21 Sep, 2016
What makes a good marriage?
Love is a growing, living thing and it needs to be nurtured and cared for. If you take your relationship for granted and forget to care for your baby as much as they need to be, the marriage fails. We do not want that to happen. Right?
We get married, we fall in love, the initial years are full of pleasure and happiness, but later when reality strikes, we curl down to our sturdy self and WHAM! All the love is flushed down the gutter. He or she is not perfect after all, no one really is. So how can we avoid the hard-hitting realization once the honeymoon period wears off?
Don't feel it ain't simple. It is simple: Set realistic expectations and not the infatuated feelings for both of you may learn about each other's habits and expectations while the relationship progresses. This means that everyone has off days, tough times, or ingrained habits that may not be easy to change and understanding them is the key to a happy marriage.
In Marriage, you can find many grounds for a divorce. But the key to successful marriage is finding reasons to stay in the wedding, rather than running away from the relationship just because it got difficult.
Cheating is the most unforgetful deed. It is the most hurting, and disrespectful thing you can do to the person you claim to love. It changes the way they feel about Love, Marriage and sometimes even GOD. It is a deep pain. Don't cheat. If you're Unhappy, just Leave!
Give your wedding the attention it deserves and your spouse the care and affection he or she craves.
True love says, you may disappoint me, frustrate me, and annoy me, but I choose to love you, respect you and care for you. True Love is, "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and Health, to love and to cherish, till Death do us part."
Oneness in marriage does not mean sameness. Learn to embrace your differences. Allow your spouse the freedom and space to be himself or herself.
Couples who pray together put God at the center of their marriage. A wedding without god's protection is like a car without fuel! ALWAYS PRAY TOGETHER.
Keep pursuing your spouse, especially after the wedding. It makes them feel special knowing that they still matter to you, even after all these years. Reassure her that you still find your better half irresistibly stunning.
Give your partner the care and love they need. Take them out, have a heart dinner, go for a dance or simply spend quality time together.
You should know that they are coming back home when they are returning. Be your spouse's stress reliever, don't add to his or her already stressful life. Make your husband/ wife look forward to coming home to you, the only person who will understand and not judge. When life gets hard to make your spouse run to you, not run away from you. Let your heart be your spouse's emotional hiding place.
Stop the silent treatment. Halt the cursing. Stop the emotional manipulation.
Sex is also significant to a couple. Your partner's Preference should be considered before your own.
Please do not forget their anniversary dates. Wedding, Anniversary or even the first time you kissed is an important date to remember. Mark it in your diary or bookmark it on your calendar.
The people that you choose to surround yourself with can break or bless your marriage. Choose your friends wisely. "Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals.
Speak gently and calmly to your partner. Never raise your voice at them, it demeans them and shows you think they are not worth your love. Don't believe that you can use intimidation, shout or violence to communicate your moods. Aggressive partners don't make a happy home.
Carrying her handbag, cooking for her sparingly, opening the car door for her doesn't reduce you from being the man neither does it rob you of your anointing. Be gentle and accommodating. You both have sacrificed so much to be with each other. Be tender.
Hide nothing from each other. You are now one, and you are two bodies, a soul. Let there be no secret you keep between both of you.