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IN Lifestyle ON 16 Sep, 2016
You are toxic with the drug called fear if you have an inferiority complex. You are infected with a disease if you have an inferiority complex or superiority complex because you do not realize that these complexes are killing you silently.
Competing with others is good, but before that you should know with whom are you competing-- with the other person or the person inside you who is certainly not equivalent to the other person.
Osho says, "There are gaps of thirty years, forty years or even fifty years between the dying and the burying". Interesting isn't it? What he is talking about is that a person inside you dies when he gets struck by inferiority complex because you loose the 'real you' in the complexities of the world.
To help you out, here I have compiled a few ways that could help you realize and come out of your complexes.
Some people with inferiority complex compensate their disorder with denial. They run from themselves and the world. They think everything is normal with them yet something frustrates. But it is very important to realize the real you as it is necessary to remember that the whole immensity exists within man; it is necessary to remember that the divine exists within man. The flame is inside you only and nobody else can snatch it from you.
When I was unhappy in my teenage about my hair type, and I wanted them to be perfectly straight, my mom said that God always gives us hair according to our face structure, or say the type that will suit us the most, I realized that some things are born with us to complement us.
Coming on the inferiority part, we should first know what part of us is making us feel inferior, the physical appearance or failure to achieve anything you wanted. Everybody has a something special in them, you just need to read and analyze yourself and start working on it.
She did it purposely!
Why did he do that!
I know his intention behind doing this!
Oh my god, it's my fault!
Sometimes, we think too much and create a problems of our own. The lack of confidence makes us skeptical of our own self and we start imagining wild things. People may not even look at us in an inferior way, but we think they do and make our lives miserable. Some people are too busy with their own lives that they fail to notice you. This doesn't mean that you are not noticeable. It shouldn't matter what other people think of you. Don't think too much because if inferiority complex gets hold of a man, he becomes sick in his very depths.
Stop comparing yourself to every other person. Otherwise, you will form and end up having an endless list of desires. There is a 'vice versa' in every case, if there is something that you don't have and others have, there is also something that you might be having and others don't have.
The picture defines it perfectly. The situation of the bigger fish desiring to have a larger home, thinking that the other fish doesn't need/deserve refers-- 'I am more deserving, then why am I not at a better place'.
It is very true-- survival of the fittest. But remember while showcasing that you are more talented than others you might loose your loved ones behind. Your art and your capability should only be applicable where it is required, otherwise, your superiority complex will convert your life into a playground for always.
If you want to take a different look towards the world, then first start loving yourself. But for that, you will have to learn to accept yourself, enjoy yourself and learn yourself, it will throw away all the unnecessary stress. Always remember that you are unique and special so always be happy with who you are.
Don't become the frog in a particular well! This will increase your degree of complex either inferiority or superiority. You will develop a world of yourself, which does not exist in actual. There is imagination and there are fantasies in everyone's world but don't start living in them. Instead, mingle with people to unburden your mental stress. Share and be open to their thoughts.
When you help others, you realize that you are in a better situation than many of them. Lending a helping hand will add meaning and satisfaction to your life. Plus, keeping yourself busy will prevent you from overthinking.
Watch out for anything that can lift your spirits up, people, books or movies. Things that can inspire you to do something rather than just thinking of others' success.
What if you do not possess certain qualities, focus on the ones you have. You have something of yourself, learn to develop those. It is always said that the ones who come first in races are the people who limped in their childhood because they have seen what criticism is and know what hard work is. Because of inferiority, they set out to prove to the world that they are something. Therefore, converting your inferiority into your strength is what's needed.
Have a goal in your life as 'an empty mind is a devil's house' will not be applicable. Identify your strengths and weaknesses and start working on those. Examine yourself rather than regretting things you don't possess. Don't think that what if you fall because you might also fly.
There are many people who feel insecure and they, in turn, get sadistic and point out the flaws in you. They pass on their complexes onto you. They think negative and indulge you also in their activity, bogging you down. Tackling them is very necessary because if a virus enters a computer, it has the ability to damage the whole system.
I agree that there are uncertainties in the society but you have to survive in them. There will be people and situations that could scare you, leaving you to think that the whole universe is ready to eat you up. But the thing is, everybody is busy in their lives and no one has time to think what you are doing in your life. Certainly, there are people who would try to mock you down but apart from them, sometimes you start developing a fear of people that somebody is noticing you and trying to keep a check on what you are doing and therefore you have to be up to the mark to the society.
Haha! Believe it or not, this is the biggest of all insecurities, and this is not age-specific. You sometimes get jealous of every other thing that happens around you. You start developing a problem with every second thing that is happening in others' life.
The day you think so, your survival will become difficult because this is the time you will lose all your confidence in life and you will be a lifeless soul. You'll have no power and no direction. You will be of the opinion that you exist nowhere in the society, because when you start feeling inferior inside, you will think of compensating your complex by turning into a showoff, and reflecting things which you don't actually have in reality. You will start finding ways to suppress the inferiority complex, just to show that you are something. Do not feel that you are empty from inside. Inferiority itself becomes the race for superiority.
Well obviously, your present day complexes are a result of your past experiences. Your hurtings which you are not able to forget and consequently sink inside. Accumulating your past memories which were bad will not help you to grow in a positive way. Don't dwell on your past failures. Thus, leave them back and look forward the newer you.
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