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IN Lifestyle ON 13 Aug, 2016
'Perfection lies in understanding and accepting the glorious imperfections.'
This is something no one thinks of when they see a happy couple who is totally engrossed in each other. All we could think is how perfect they are together. However, every successful couple has the story of its silent battle. The happiness between them is hard earned. They walked through the paths of regrettable tales, nasty fights, and the stories of 'sorry' before they come up as a united couple.
There are dirty little secrets that the successful couples would keep hidden in their closets. These relationship secrets help them in knowing each other better and getting closer. If you are in a relationship and are certain your partner is 'the one,' here are such simple little secrets that will seal the deal for your relationship.
It is often said that when we fight with our partner, one of us needs to step in and say sorry. Not always! There are times when you need time to be a solution. Successful couples can take shelter in their cocoon for days and go without speaking. They would continue their own work until their rage subsides and they are ready to have a conversation without any drama.
Everyone has their own way of coping up with the things after a fight. The couples who truly are attached to each other will never try to bend those paths. They will surely wait for their partner to come around in their own way. This is called being respectful to your love and valuing the intimacy of trust.
There are times when the things can go totally off the rail. It can get really messy and the fight can land you both into a thick soup. However, as a successful couple, the trick is to wait for the soup to cool down and then clean the mess. Any fight brings with it damage, but the solution of the true couple are managing and mending the damage done.
Out of rage, we often spit out things that end up hurting our partner. These may be little things but they do hurt the other one. If you want to be a successful couple, STOP bringing up those small things on every occasion. Keeping a grudge and picking up the old issues on every instance is a perfect recipe for running a relationship.
Each partner has its own needs and priorities to fulfill. In a successful relationship, the fulfillment comes when each partner respects the priorities of others. They create a field where both are mindful of their priorities and help each other in meeting the same.
Physical proximity is necessary but just suppose if you are in a relationship for a long time and are old now. Will sex be still as important as it is today? The answer is NO. The successful couple never relies on sex as their measure of togetherness. They rely on romantic love making rather than sex. That indeed makes all the difference.
There is a period in every couple's life when they face sex droughts. The couple who are thick as thieves survives this drought without any form of drama or anger. Their relationship doesn't come crashing down because of lack of sexual intimacy. The successful couples know the meaning of waiting and supporting their partners.
NO, the successful couples may seem perfect but they are far from it. They never thrive for perfection or try to achieve the same. They understand each other with love and respect, then let that shape their relationship.