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IN People ON 24 Jul, 2016
A woman writes a letter to another woman who has an affair with her husband. The letter is written exactly one year after a letter from the other woman. The letter describes the fragile nature of human relations and how the series of events in their lives finally lead to separation from one another.
Let's have a look at the letter!
...Carlie and her husband had divorced in 2015 because she learned about the other woman in her husband's life. Carlie decided to write a letter to her describing the effects it had on the family and it goes like this...
My daughter's best friend at daycare shares your name, and I used to flinch a lot when I heard it. Whenever my daughter talks about the fun she had with her friend, I feel very grateful that she is talking about her friend and not you.
A year ago you had hit the send button on an email which had adverse effects on me, my daughter, our families, and friends. I sometimes wonder what was going through your head at that moment, how much of it was revenge against a man who broke your heart and how much of it was you trying to do the right thing. You knew exactly what a woman would need to hear to get her there, from where there was no returning and you delivered the same step by step.
I still wonder how much you knew about me. I know you did a lot of research, you probably looked for me online, saw my pictures, read my blog, and I still think that did you know that I'd be at work that day when I received your e-mail perplexingly entitled "Your husband." Yes, that's what he was and technically still is. Sometimes I feel so bizarre thinking about the person whom I knew so intimately had this other person in his life about whom I didn't know at all.
I can honestly say that I didn't know about you, but I should have. I asked him, but I thought this could not happen to us because we were rock solid. We also had a six-month-old baby, and he was away a lot due to work. I needed him to hang in there as those were really tough times for me and he would have been there if you wouldn't have come along at that moment.
I am not interested in putting the blame nor can I take hatred and I also don't care whose fault truly is. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and we have something to learn from each of our experiences. I can imagine how it would have been for you. One night a guy comes to your bar, and he is good-looking, charming, my husband, etc. Even I fell in love with him at a bar.
Sometimes I wonder how much he had lost from me. 10 years ago I was a cute blonde in a short skirt at his favorite pub, and now I am a mother in yoga pants who has silver regrowth and bags under her eyes from being up all night with a sick baby. In some ways, I'm actually glad for the nights he had to spend alone in a hotel while on work but he was not actually alone.
He was with you, spent his birthday with you, was confronted by you when we put our beloved dog down. I love this man enough to feel happy for him that he was able to find love in those tough times. He wanted to make it work with his wife, his family. I bet that hurts. You could let him try to make everything work or just to leave everything, and you selected option two. My husband and I, we still have respect and love for each other and no one can break that or take it away.
I hope you've moved on with your life.
I hope you learned this lesson that you could find peace within yourself from the situation as I have.