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IN People ON 15 Jul, 2016
Marriage is a sacred bond, where two individuals are tied into a relationship. The base of marriage is love ad trust. When a person falls in love, he loses himself. The relationship is based on profound trust. Imagine spending your teenage ears studying, then graduating working hard to excel and getting a good job and then finally doing a normal day job, working day in and day out. All this while being loyal to the high school sweetheart, sacrificing family, parents, dreams, and passions.
Of course, you can imagine ll this but what happens next would be beyond your imagination I guess. Well, imagine you get married after that and you find your wife cheating on you after 10 years of marriage. Here is the story of a banker who had the same fate.
He posted all his feelings on Facebook.
Lou is a 46-year-old banker. He lived his whole life opposite of how he wanted. All his dreams and passion were gone. A steady 9-7 job, 6 days a week, for 26 years, he repeatedly chose the safe path for everything which eventually changed who he was.
Today he found out that his wife was cheating on him from last 10 years. His son feels nothing for him. He realised he missed his father's funeral for nothing. He didn't complete his novel, travel the world and helped the homeless. If his younger self had met him today, he would have punched himself in the face.
When he was 20, he was sure that he was going to change the world. People loved him and he loved people. He was innovative, creative, spontaneous and a risk taker. He had two dreams, the first was writing and the second travelling and helping the homeless. He had been dating his years since four years by then. It was young love, she loved his spontaneity, his energy and his ability to make people laugh. He knew his book would change the world.
He was 20 and he was the only child. He needed to be stable and to take a graduate job which would dictate his whole life. He had a 9-7 job. He used to come home, eat his dinner, prepare his work for the following day and sleep at 10 the following day to wake up at 6 AM the following day. He can't even remember the last time he made love to his wife.
Yesterday his wife admitted to cheating on him for last 10 years. That seems like a long time but he can't comprehend it. It doesn't even hurt. The only thing that hurt was that he lost the real him in all these years and not that his wife cheated on him. He still remembers, the most popular girl in the High School asking him out, but he stayed loyal to his girlfriend.
He worked part time and splurged all that he had earned and now he saves every penny. He never did anything for himself, didn't spend anything on himself.
"If you are reading this, and you have a whole life ahead of you, please don't procrastinate and don't leave your dreams for later. Relish in your energies, your passion. Don't stay on the internet with all your spare time. Please do something with your life when you are young. Do not settle down at 20, don't forget your friends and family. Don't waste your life, your passion like I did. Don't be like me."