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IN Lifestyle ON 08 Jul, 2016
Let's face it, we all love it when our partner goes 'down under'. Whether it's males or females, it's a form of sex everyone loves. But there are a lot of complications that come with this form of sex if not done correctly. First of all, you and your partner should pay attention to things that you like or don't like so that it's a pleasurable experience for both partners.
It's not that difficult to 'learn the art' if you pay attention to your partner's needs. So take notes if you have to, but here are some things you should keep in mind while going down on your partner.
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While many people say that they're not satisfied with the way their partners go down on them, to be honest, it isn't that tough. You could follow some simple rules for a good method and it works like magic.
The best method to enjoy sex is to communicate with your partner. Ask them what they like and what they don't like. Take those cues and then go ahead. A transparent relationship really helps with having a good time in the bedroom.
Treat it like the main attraction. Build your way up by indulging in a lot of foreplay. Get her excited first and then go for it.
Although, occasionally looking at your partner while you're pleasuring them seems to work for some couples but it isn't necessary. Some people can't freely enjoy the act when their partner is analyzing every expression of theirs. So, don't keep staring and give them some space.
'Is this ok for you?', 'Are you there yet?'. You should stop that. If your partner is about to climax, they will let you know. Even if something is going wrong and your partner isn't liking what you're doing, they will let you know. So by asking too many questions, you're just disturbing the rhythm.
You're also a human being and sometimes you might do something that your partner doesn't like. Patiently listen to your partner if they're correcting without feeling inferior or bad about it.
Some partners are pretty verbal, while others aren't. But if you know your partner well, you'd be able to tell whether they're having fun or not. So, just look for the cues by listening to your partner moan or tell you directly and follow that.