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IN People ON 18 Jun, 2016
First time I saw my father scolding my mother for spending more was the day the first crack in his image appeared in my mind. Standing on the threshold of teenage, I thought is this man standing in front of me can ever be an idol I can follow. Over the years, I have seen you in different situations as a husband. Sometimes, I loved what you did for my mother whereas sometimes I absolutely hated. On this approaching Father's Day, I am visiting down the memory lane to scout those moments which made you special. What changed in him as a father that makes me think I couldn't have been a daughter of someone more wonderful.
Over the years, you have given me valuable lessons about life and the way to lead it. You have made me into a strong independent human. This article is for you dad for when you emerged as a wonderful father while I thought you are not a good husband.
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Remember the time when I asked you for money to buy that video game cassette instead you piled me up with lots of home chores? Mumbling with rage, I started doing the work, and you told mom not to advocate for me when she wanted you to give me the money. After I had finished the work, you gave me Rs. 50, the exact amount needed for buying the cassette. Years later I realized it was to make me understand that money comes from hard work, and nothing can give one more pleasure than earning on her/his own.
The day I refused to carry the suitcases to the station with the excuse that my nails will break, you scolded me hard. At that moment, I thought you would never understand what being a girl means. I was wrong! Each time you wanted me to learn cooking, I assumed you are supporting misogyny and each time you wanted me to do physical hard work I thought you are harsh on me. Now, when I can manage both changing a tire and cooking the perfect dish with total efficiency.
What am I good at? I was speechless when you asked me this one day. As a kid, I was in the air thinking I am so good at being this and that but actually what was I good at? Imagination, reading and painting a picture through words those are the things I can claim to do. However, they would never be in me if it wasn't for the zeal to know things and explore. You taught me having a curious mind without being inquisitive is the best way to know myself and the world around.
When I failed in mathematics in final board examination, I was sad and scared that you would scold me. You didn't! You were there sitting just by me and made me understand the real failure is not to get up. The real failure is not trying again. I have failed many times in life but learned never to back down. While writing this article for Father's Day, this is one memory which is firmly imprinted in my mind.
You got angry with mom as she was late in serving the dinner after you came back from work. I despised that moment and thought how you can act like a male chauvinist. While gathering my courage to get vocal about my feelings, my mother stopped me by saying don't always believe what you see. Yes, she was right. You are far from being a male chauvinist and a person who always taught me I can do anything if I have the capability and desire. Never let your gender stop you from what you want to achieve.
At times instead of talking with my mother you would bury yourself in books and files. Are they so necessary over the person who is your partner? This is the question which kept bubbling in me. I got my answer each time we landed in trouble and your experience bailed us out. No reading books or files isn't getting experience, but knowing is! Knowledge is the key which will always keep you safe. You inculcated the habit of learning, observing and knowing, getting experience which will never leave my side.
Yes, when I insisted on putting more value on my possessions rather than sharing them you gave me a hard time. They were mine and why should I share them? You made me think why not? Money is necessary, but it's not a costly phone that makes me happy at the end of the day, a cuddle from a loved one does. Human relationships are much more valuable rather than focusing on material possessions.
In my mind, I often criticized your role as a husband, but I can never comprehend the real relationship, after all, I am just a bystander. However, the relationship I have lived is that of a father and daughter. This Fathers' Day I just want to thank you for being YOU.
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