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IN Lifestyle ON 31 May, 2016
There's no absolute compatibility and everlasting chemistry. A meaningful and happy relationship is built on compromise, tolerance, and empathy.
Because nobody is perfect, there are many things you must accept about the person you love in order to grow together as a couple. Here are the most important things to consider.
Each person is unique. One of the biggest mistakes that immature lovers commit is trying to change the other person. You have good and bad examples from past relationships, your friends or parents which you are either trying to copy or to avoid. Don't let yourself be influenced by others and don't buy into the herd mentality when it comes to your heart. Have reasonable expectations from your lover and embrace the difference that makes life, love and each relationship exciting and worthwhile.
The first thing you need to accept in order to be able to feel fulfilled in a relationship is that your partner and your connection have no terms of comparison. Your partner's value as a person resides in his individuality. Accept that and have a wonderful relationship.
As every person is unique, you should accept the past that made that person the human being with whom you have fallen in love. Let bygone be bygones and don't dwell on something that cannot be altered. Forget yesterday. Take your partner for what he is today in order to be able to build a better tomorrow together. Trust in the old adage that the past does not define the future and know that it's often harder to live in suspicion than to actually face a difficult situation. If you want to have a chance at happiness, tolerate his past mistakes and have hope that your partner has learned the appropriate lessons.
When it comes to emotional baggage, you should be aware that yours and your partner's past love affairs are nothing like what you share. Remember both of you are unique and your relationship is special and no one else can change that except you and your lover.
Life changes us all. Our baggage supposedly makes us better, wiser, more mature and every day has its own surprises. Perspectives change, scenarios shift and involuntarily, we are all influenced directly or indirectly even by little everyday things. A meaningful relationship is dynamic. Affection and attachment allegedly should grow deeper. As long as you accept that he is evolving and choose to evolve together by mutually supporting each other, your relationship is on the right track. However, you can also grow apart, evolve separately or worse devolve.
The secret to growing happy and fulfilled as a couple resides primarily in accepting that you are both constantly changing and have a constant need to adapt to each other. In the end, acceptance is the first thing you need to embrace in order to leave room for love to and to grow stronger within a fulfilling relationship. Want more awesome advice? Visit my site HisDesires.com, get my free eBook and learn how to meet and keep a quality guy in your life.