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IN Health & Fitness ON 08 Apr, 2016
There are a lot of questions that women ask/think regarding their sex life, intimate body parts, the emotions their partners feel, married life, etc. However, they feel shy asking these or fear that their partners might feel uncomfortable when confronted with such questions and so, they look for sn expert advice from books, etc.
Here is some advice that might come in handy.
The solo sure-thing in women is about the clitoris. However, around 30% of women orgasm in the absence of clitoral stimulation, remarks a licensed psychologist Dr. Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. So if sex for women doesn't involve their clit, then either with manual stimulant or with the sexual positions hit it, Coming wouldn't be in the cards. Mintz indicated to adjust the expectations. She said, "start thinking about orgasming as a before or after intercourse thing".
This depends on the women. If they're perimenopausal, then blame estrogen. They need a sufficient amount of the hormone in order to maintain the vaginal lubrication, and which is when the level naturally declines. They may not yet be in that hot flash phase, and should look at the meds. Antihistamines could dry up the vagina and their nose. Mintz said,"Hot tub chemicals, caffeine, and even stress can promote vaginal dryness, too".
This report was published in the May 2012 release of the "Journal of Sexual Medicine", in which Adam Ostrzenski, M.D and, a semi-retired Florida-based gynecologist, insisted on having found the G-spot location through dissecting a deceased 83-year-old woman's body. Unfortunately, the women won't be able to look for theirs via Google Maps or apple maps anytime soon. This is because the G-spot, according to Brizendine, "isn't an organ, it's an anatomical area, and not only does it vary greatly in exact location from woman to woman, it's much more defined in some than in others."
Up to 20% of married couples engage in sex 10 times in a year or less, which is defined by psychologists as a "sexless marriage." And one in three pairs, who are non-married and have been with each other for more than two years have a non-sexual relationship. Hence, it's more regular than anyone think. Yet, is it ideal? "Sexless marriages divide into two types," said Mintz, who is the author of "A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex". She said "Those in which both partners are content with near to no sex and, much more common, those in which one partner is very worried about it and the other is not."
This should be done very carefully. "Many men feel insecure about their sexual performance, so before you address it, boost his ego by assuring him you enjoy hooking up with him in any capacity, not just via intercourse," said Amber Madison, MA, a therapist in New York City.
Physiologically, a woman reaches her sexual top at age 19, said Brizendine, who is a neuropsychiatrist working at the University of California, San Francisco. This is when estrogen, that retains the vaginal lubrication, and testosterone, that stokes sex drive, maxes out. Yet, really now, 19? This isn't the age at which many women would say that they're have had or having the sex of their lives. And this is precisely the point. The best sex is about psychology and isn't about physiology.
Riffle the Sex Position Coloring Book which is what it sounds like, a collection of 101 ready to color sexual positions. "The most informative sex book a man and a woman and a box of crayons have ever shared," promises cheeky back cover. It is silly, but this is kinda the point. "It's a fantastic way to open lines of communication with your partner because it makes light of the sometimes awkward discussion of what to do in the bedroom," says Monica Sweeney, a writer, and editor who helped in developing the book.
A phrase from the book, Sex Talk 101 says, "don't stop!" "If you like it and he likes it, there's no reason to stop," says Madison. "Technically, you don't need both people to participate." However, if emotionally you do need him, try coaching your partners a bit. "He probably doesn't know where to start and doesn't want to look dumb," madison adds. "Encourage him to talk about what's happening in the moment-what he likes, what he likes even more."
Do you want to extract your inside Anastasia Steele? Give your partner one copy of the book, "Fifty Shades of Grey" and have him carefully mark five things which pique his interest. And then do the same about what you want to try. After this, talk about why you both chose them and explore these which you settle on together. To heat up your bedroom tonight, begin with some sexy props which won't scare the guy away, says Marisa Bennett, the author of Fifty Shades of Pleasure.
As stated by a survey of 568 American women, one-third reported engaging in sex on the first date with the person they met online and 27% had oral sex. "The reality is that, if you have a good connection with someone, the rules mostly go out the window," says relationship guru Andrea Syrtash, co-author of "It's Okay to Sleep with Him on the First Date and Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked". She said, "That doesn't mean you don't have some strategies or follow social cues, but it means you follow your gut and your heart more than arbitrary rules."
Loof for something so congenial that you would be able to buy at Target. "You don't need to run to your local Kink Mart for angled foam platforms or suspension bondage gear," said Bennett, who is the author of "101 Things to Do with a Vibrator". She adds "Everything you need to get your groove on is right at home."
Many women have this question that whether men like women who are groomed or waxed down there. "If you ask guys on the street what they think about pubic hair, a lot may say they want grooming," says Madison. She adds "It's a preference, no more, no less. But when it comes down to actual behavior, it's a little different. If he's turned on by you, he won't care about it."