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IN Lifestyle ON 26 Jan, 2016
Having sex for the first time is sure a thing of well, many things. There is a lot of pressure and excitement and anxiety and nervousness and joy - all making a chaos in the virgin's mind. While some virgins look forward to it eagerly, some dread it like the whole universe of Harry Potter dreads Lord V. However, nothing goes as anticipated. Certainly not when it is your first time. So here we made a little list of what virgins find out on their wedding night, which you may find very helpful. If you're one of course. *grin*
Because 90-percent people don't. Why? Because it doesn't turn out as, you had anticipated it. The deflowering of a woman as shown in movies is way different from how you lose your virginity. So chances are that you might find having sex is not that divine after all, but then sex is like wine. It gets better with time.
Because lets face it, you have done something you had never done before. So it is only obvious that you would feel different than you always did. In simpler terms, a man uses 4000 of his cells which he has never used before, and a woman discovers the joy and pain of 8000 cells that are down there. But hey, you'll get used to it.
Eminem once said, "Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed." I don't know if he meant it in this context too, but all I know is it is completely applicable here. No man can always lead a woman to orgasm unless he is a Stifler. Humour apart, that's about it. An orgasm isn't guaranteed and that's the best part about it. Uncertainty is surprise, if you know what I mean.
Because come on, who doesn't? Every first-time you do something with your genitals, there are chances that you might feel weird and dirty. As much as this is true about masturbation, it also is about sex for the first time. But that's normal again. You will get used to it.
Because until that moment of penetration, you are a virgin, and you pretty much wear it like a medal, like the Jonas Brothers did. But once it is done and you are deflowered, you realize that there is so much more to your identity than just being a virgin.
Because even if we have watched p0rn clips that go on for forty-three minutes, that isn't always the case. In fact that never is. It depends upon the skills of your partner, the much can he stretch the foreplay because once he is at the point of ejaculation, he will end the whole thing inside 6 seconds. It is a bitter truth and you have to learn it the hard way. No pun intended.
There are chances that you might lie in your bed and while looking at the ceiling, you might think, well, is this all that is there? And did I wait for this mere thing all my life? Well it is a relative question. You can or you cannot. The catch is, make sure your first time isn't very worthless.
Because come on, they are rumours after all. Everyone has a story to tell and it doesn't always mean you might experience the same exact thing. So chill and do not take all those advises of your girlfriends very seriously. It ain't a big deal anyway.
Because regardless of how painful it was or how quickly it ended or how it couldn't hit the G-spot, it was your first time with someone special (if you don't plan to remarry of course) and however failed, silly and funny it would have been, you did it. So yeah, it is special.
Because once you're done having sex, you know you have done it. Its like seeing Switzerland. Until you have been there, you're all excited about it, but once you have seen it all, it doesn't look like something that should be given so much attention. You have been there, done that. Attaboy. And attagirl too.