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IN Lifestyle ON 17 Jan, 2016
Long distance relationships may not sound the most exciting thing today, as people often tend to get allured by immediate gratification of sexual instincts than having a worthy meaningful relationship. But, there are nearly 14 million (stunning..! ) couples in the world, who're believed to be in long distance relationships, with an average of some 200kms distance. It's worth pondering over, why people put themselves through so much, when it's actually easy to find one in their own city itself.
Most often, nearly 70% of the long distance relationships fail for some reason, but THERE ARE those 30% who make it possible. And, that's a good enough encouragement for those 70% of the committed population.
Let's see, what can make your long distance relationship totally worth it.
Before getting into long distance relationship, it's better to talk out each one's expectations, apprehensions, insecurities etc. It is this initial conversation that will help in determining where you want to take this. Being miles away, from a person whom you love, isn't an easy task. Hence, clarifying without hesitation is the best thing to do.
If you like travelling, exploring new and exquisite places then thanks to your new found distance relationship that gives you absolutely legit reason to travel. You can plan on meeting halfway, and explore the new city. This solves the dual purpose, you spend time with him, get to know him more, and rejuvenate and discover your own self.
When you say, 'I miss you', it should be from your heart. You actually miss his presence or think of the times something exciting happened in your life and you badly want to share it with him and see his live reactions. Or while talking you feel the sudden gush of holding him tightly, or hugging or kissing him for no reason, other than you REALLY want to hold, hug or kiss him!
You talk to him about everything, your long boring/exciting days, financial crunches, your time of the month, and both together conquer the long distance jovially. Your conversations happen more on phone or video calls, where you argue, clear out differences of opinion, make love. And, those late night calls where both fall asleep hearing the the breathing sound of the other.
You meet him once in six months, (lucky, if once in a month or three months! ) so obviously you don't want it to get ruined. You understand the importance of this limited time and hence, try to make the best meet possible. You're on a 'No-Holds-Barred', 'No-Regrets', trip where you want to open your heart out to him, let him in and enjoy every precious minute spent.
We constantly think of making each other happy. We plan on surprises by sending small gifts, or sudden visits. This brings people more closer and the bond strengthens. These little things that show you care and are interested in him. Since, you always can't be physically present, your presents give him feeling of your presence around him.
When you're in long distance relationship, you automatically tune your brain to become patient. And all this while, you build up the eagerness, excitement and anticipation for which, after all you have a sweet reward. That keeps your relationship going!
Now, you have learned to manage your meetings, priorities and appointments by setting aside weekends to visit or spend time with him. You would've literally worked out for everything for six months or even a year.