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Love is very powerful. And being in love with someone is probably the best feeling ever. And there is also one more truth that making love strengthens your relation.
But have you ever thought a deep into it? I mean do you feel your partner demands love-making a lot?
Here are some big signs to find out.
Sex addicts are master in telling the lies. They put up a little bit of truth and then create a completely false impression. They also are mastered the art of covering themselves when their partner is too close to uncovering them with the truth.
Sexual addicts often use alcohol and drugs to numb their thinking and to excuse themselves. In other words or putting it simply sexual addicts know the danger of sexually transmitted diseases it they hire a hooker, but if they go to a random bar and have some drinks and pick up a girl, it might not be that dangerous. Thus, sexual addicts often seek alcohol and drugs on an unconscious level to justify moving into deeper addiction. They find an escape or excuse in alcohol and drugs.
In order to soothe their guilty conscious abusers are often tend to blame their children and their spouses. They suddenly become the experts in shaming their family when it comes to questioning their addiction. Some husbands and wives are so intimidated by the addicts' outbursts of anger and blame, that they drop the subject rather than risk further exposure to the tirades. As a result, the abuser successfully buries the addiction with verbal attacks on the family. Addicts most of the time tend to blame their family members for such vile and obnoxious behaviour. Also
If verbal abuse is allowed to continue long enough, it's only a matter of time before physical abuse happens in. Many female sex addicts prefer more devious ways to punish their family.
Emotional abuse follows the same cycle as verbal and physical abuse. Building up of the tension, abusing in order tireless the tension, saying everything is ok and lovely after again. The addict's constant vacillating between showing some concern and then being emotionally absent keeps the family in a state of confusion and stress.
Sexual addicts become more of the self-centred and self gratifying at the expense of their partner. They become incapable of connecting the emotional level and sex becomes mechanical.
Parents who looked proudly and lovingly at their newborn child and who would've gladly sacrificed their own life for that child, can one day degenerate into an incestuous pervert. They not only engage in fantasies of sexual indecencies with that same child, but many act them out. Addiction leads to delusional thinking, and this is a small example of how addictions damages the thinking of the person, man or a woman.
A person becomes angry and bitter while he suffers from sexual addiction. Sometimes its the bitterness in the relationships cause the person to pursue into the sexual addiction. Also, most sexual addiction starts in teen age. The person develops bitterness from exposure to the degradation of men and women portrayed in porn. Theses sometimes the main reason behind anger an bitterness in real life. Eventually, this grows addends up onto hurting our loved ones.
It often takes the partner a long time to realize that the family cannot please the addict no matter how hard they try. By the time the partner starts trying to stand up to undeserved blame, everyone in the family is fighting for emotional survival. Perfection is what all demand but an addict gets on to those unrealistic perfection levels which are not there to achieve.
Addiction results in revealing of evil sides of the addict towards their family. Most times their thoughts are negative, and they tend to keep it a secret. This at most times tends to help the person to think them as a better spouse and parent. The family doesn't have a chance of winning the addict's love or favor. Most of times allows the addict to become more compulsive and irrational.
Addicts most of the times secretly squander family finances on their personal sexual pleasure. They concentrate more on spending themselves rather then keeping up with their family necessary expenses. One sexual addict confessed to spending $70,000 on his addiction during the three years prior to when his wife left him. They lose the ability to concentrate on their work and they may engage in risky behavior that compromises their job.
"I'm the leader! I get to do whatever I want!" , this is what a male addict is tend to say. Contrary to their declaration, God didn't give husbands and fathers any personal rights with their position of leadership.