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IN People ON 07 Jan, 2016
When a person gets raped, the victim is never the cause of rape. Whether the rape victim is a male or a female, does not matter. Rape is rape, it is evil and it psychologically, physically, and emotionally ruins the lives of people. Moreover, any genuine victim of rape should receive support, not hate and criticisms. If a person wore a skimpy outfit or was naked, that still does not mean that he or she should get raped.
The cause of rape is the rapist, not the victim. There are tribes and groups that do not wear much clothing or even wear nothing at all, but rape is not an issue. Thus, clothing or a person's way of talking or walking is not the cause of rape. Instead, rape is caused by people who force themselves on others and do not tolerate "no" for an answer. Stop victim blaming.
Amber Amour is a 27-year-old activist who hails from New York but went to Cape Town in South Africa because she was promoting her "Stop Rape. Educate" advocacy.
Amber was just recovering from two days of food poisoning when she went to visit a friend who had another male, drunken friend. The drunk person kept following Amber, and asked her if she wanted to go shower. Amber felt that she needed a hot shower after being sick, but when she entered the shower, the man allegedly sexually assaulted her. People, please take note here that Amanda agreed to take a shower with the guy, but NOT to have any sexual activities at all. This is a case of sexual assault.
After allegedly being sexually assaulted, Amber Amour took to Instagram to talk about the horrific incident and shared photos of her and her rape kit.
Here, Amber said that she understands if some people still do victim-blaming. In the future, she hopes that they would be enlightened that rapists commit rape whenever they want to, not because of what a man or a woman wears.
Each and every person should have full control of one's own body. Even if you are naked or fully clothed, people should respect your decision, especially about having sex. No means no.
Guys, this is not what you do not want to be. Even if Amber did want to shower with the guy, it was only for a shower. Sure, the guy might sexually like Amber, but being with her in a shower does not mean that Amber wanted to have sex. Learn about consent and learn to respect people's decisions.
When Amber Amour was only 12 years old, she was sexually violated.
Amber hopes that her courage toward fighting rapists and victim-blaming would inspire other rape victims, whether male or female, to speak up and seek help. It's not too late to recover and achieve justice. Now, she wants to launch a campaign named "Creating Consent Culture." Best wishes to her!