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A Mother's Struggle - Pain Of Not Being Able To Have A Baby

Cinderella and Snow white tales are something every young girl dreams about when she is a child. The myth where which portrays the happy world. These stories make us believe that when we grow up, there will be a point in life when we will live happily ever after and everything will be perfect. 'The happily ever after’ is different for different beings, but for me it was finding my love and having children with him. I wanted to be a Mother.

The thought of having a warm and loving home with my partner where pictured in my head from a long time. I had already thought about how I would guide my children and protect them always.

Dinner table talks and home cooked meals, games with our kids. Our children’s friends would come home and our home will be filled with laughter and joy. I was destined to be a mum or maybe, destiny isn’t the right word. I just wanted to become a mother when I find the love of my life. This is what was put into my mind with all the fairy tales  and the television, Everything. It was bound to happen, but, unfortunately, didn’t.

 

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A Mother's Struggle - Pain Of Not Being Able To Have A Baby

A Mother's Struggle - Pain Of Not Being Able To Have A Baby

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Her Dream

Her Dream

She did not dream for a diamond castle or something that huge, her dream was small and simple - she just wanted to be a mother.

The beginning of their lives together

The beginning of their lives together

Kate always thought that she will have a family once she met the right man, and when she found him, it became all the more obvious that they'll have kids.

Their Expectations

Their Expectations

Kate told us about her married life. She said, " It was 2007. My husband Kirby and I were married, we had our home, and we were set. Now we could have what we both wanted so much. We could have our children. We weren't too concerned when the six-month mark passed, and even when the 12-month mark came and went, and I hadn't got pregnant. When 2008 rolled around we began to wonder whether something might be wrong. Kirby and I decided to talk to our doctor and she referred us to an IVF clinic. The clinic did a number of tests which revealed very little about why we weren't conceiving."

They almost lost hope

They almost lost hope

"We couldn't understand it" she said. "This was supposed to be an easy process for us. There was nothing physically wrong with either of us and nothing wrong with Kirby's sperm or my eggs as far as we knew."

The Frustration

The Frustration

"I was incredibly angry after the initial shock of hearing the news began to lessen. I was angry at myself for getting my hopes up again, I was angry at the clinic for not being able to tell us why, and I was angry that something that was so easy for others was a ridiculous struggle for us.Still, I reconciled myself that at least we had one. The clinic told us that I could come in the next day for the transfer. The embryo transfer went ahead and we continued to be as positive as possible. Once more I talked to it, I told it off our hopes and dreams for it, I played the classical music CD, and I held the romper suit against my abdomen. I felt as though my breasts were more tender than usual and I believed that this embryo had stayed."

Realisation

Realisation

When they finally realised that they will not have a baby, they were very sad and it was difficult for them to sink this in. But they decided to move on and found their happiness in other things and now they are happy in their own ways.

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