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IN Lifestyle ON 29 Dec, 2015
LOVE a four lettered magical word which when touches someone's life changes it to a good extent. Love is a feeling which has been very beautifully expressed by various poets, writers, illustrators etc but still every time there is new to explore. Everyone has their own experience of love and these experiences give a different meaning to loving.
Robert Steinberg, a Psychologist has defined love in 7 types.
Let's see what they are.
According to this theory, there are three elements- love, intimacy and compassion and a combination of these three elements define love in 7 types.
He/she is the person with whom you share your life, your happy and sad moments, they are really important for you and you love and care for the, but this is a love for a friend and not for a relationship.
Infatuated love is like lust it is for a short period, you get high for some time, and then you become normal again. You feel he/she is the world for you but reflect will you be with him/her in every point of life, are willing to take him/her fully yours?
This sense of commitment can be found in our families, you need that person, and he/she will be there with you in your future too then that is empty love where you don't have any love attractions towards them. You do not share your personal feelings with them.
Just a glimpse of him/her and you blush uncontrollably. You get that made for each feeling and life seems to get complete with him/her, but if you do not work out and plan for your future now, then this might last only for short period.
People who are in a long-term relationship can feel this kind of love. Intimacy and commitment are indeed important but passion is the strong glue which makes your bond strong. It makes you feel energetic and lively.
You have a strong feeling for him/her and you can commit almost everything, then it is a fatuous love. Everything works great between you both. You have an awesome sexual experience together too. You feel that "yes, he/she is the only one I have been waiting for!" You know everything about them and their likes, dislikes, habits etc. You dream to have a future with them, but if there is no intimacy, then all is in vain.
This is the love experienced when you accept the person with his/her flaws and faults as they are and you both are the only person you need in every situation in life. You always make great love, and whatever decisions you take together, you can stick to it. We all will wish to have this kind of love but is this so easy that it seems, yes, you can work hard to achieve this and you can, but not everyone can do this, so whatever you do give you full effort and see the magic.