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There are little things worth dying for, while there are more things worth living for. Basically, there are things you can or cannot do in the name of something more beneficial, practical or charitable. Talking about marriage, we must be sure that we will commit on doing this for love, then other justifications follow. It must not be the other way around. It is painful to realize that because of being too 'happy-go-lucky' or unplanned in life, the marriage you've had is not the sweetest one. Then you regret, cheat, and make more complicated problems.
Before being too whimsical, something must be learned too well. First, you must love yourself in order to, second, find the one you truly love. Let there be no foolishness or other opportunistic mentality. Let not be like the following unacceptable reasons for having marriage then soon regret about it.
The severity of this alibi can still be acceptable. Kinda selfish, but can still be treated.
In the modern age, the patriarchal tradition about men as sole money-maker in the family is now invalid. Do not be idle of life. You can still enjoy it. There's still time to grow your love. The advise works for both sexes.
Right, not hurting someone does not necessarily mean that you love him/her. You should've got the guts to set things straight.
It seems impractical. If you wanted a baby, there are too many abandoned children in shelters and government offices concerning the social welfare of children.
Lovers can be as sweet and tight as friends, but not otherwise. There is a deeper commitment underlying the event of marriage and it is more than those friendly stuff.
Maturity is needed in life, not only in marriage. You should strive for more but at the right time and place. You should've asked yourself first to grow before resorting to anyone. They have to fix their lives, too. They are proving something for themselves and more other people.
Most people think that American life is the ultimate life. This should never be the case. Love is not about taking advantage of others for self-interests. You are better than that.
Again, you are better than that.
There are guys who can fully understand. Basically, there are people who could do that for you, regardless of your gender or whatever. Just do not say it that way. It hurts to be a rebound. Moreover, It may be selfish but just accept that you, at least, can love that kind of person. Nobody can just take the risk.
If you come from a religious background, it should be done to give remedy to the sacrament of marriage. But, other than that, if you think it's not a win-win situation, or at least, a bit beneficial, think harder.
It's hard to accept but that should have been done earlier. You know who you are. Do not ruin your life for others' comfort.
I cannot blame you for that line of thought but I think that you can still work it out. I know you've known yourselves for quite some time now. Let it grow. Give hope to each other.
Love is not a gamble, it's an activity that needs critical minds and rational decisions. No two persons can reciprocate love at the same rate. If you haven't experienced it to the other one, find another but think carefully before finally doing it.